My top 6 High performance mindset hacks for everyday life

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What if you approached each day with intent and purpose just as elites do, rather than waking up into ground hog day.  And brought out your inner champion in your life or business?

If your first thoughts are,

because its hard work,

I don’t have time

Well, then sorry dear you are in the wrong place so should probably stop reading.

 

Still here?

Then sweet, you are on the right track to making your dreams come true.

Elite athletes have drive, determination, focus and ambition, much the same as anyone who is passionate about what they do.  It makes sense to apply the same logic to your life or business as they do to their sport.  I mean, why wouldn’t you right?

Here’s my tips on having a high performance mindset. Give them a bash and see what is possible for you.

  • be you first.  When you are strong in who you are and your identity opportunities open up to you.  This is where confidence comes from.
  • have a plan or goal. This gives focus and will be your anchor when you hit those tough days.
  • visualise it, athletes use mental imagery a lot to create realness around your goal.  visualise the process, not just the end goal. Visualise how you feel, what the environment is like so that you are prepared mentally and your session plays out as you wish.
  • Take action, daily.  Its the daily act of showing up that matters. it doesn’t always have to be physically, but you do have to pay some attention to your goal daily even if its resting or planning, something that keeps in the front of your mind.
  • Have balance, so learn when rest is needed.  Without sleep our body cannot grow and neither can our mind.  Its just as important as good nutrition and hydration so make sure you do this.
  • seek help or guidance when needed from a coach.  How many top athletes do you know got their on their own? Seriously?  You will always find someone has been at their side at some stage.  A coach is able to offer unbiased, real time feedback and give you that accountability boot when it gets hard and you start to slack off.
  • Attitude. The kind of attitude you approach your goals with will determine the outcome. So if you want good things to happen you need to think good things. Learn how to rewire your brain and mindset to produce positive verbal and body language and thats what you will receive.

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Go get em champion!

Hiria x

 

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Three hacks to finding more time to do the things that light you up!

Hey babe,

You are either reading this because you value your time and will do anything to try and find more of it.  Or you are at a loss as to how other people are able to fit so much into their day.

Lets start with time itself. What are your first thoughts or feelings when you hear that word?

I usually get my back up and then my eyes glaze over.

You know why?

Because it seems to be all people talk about today, like it is the single most important commodity that drives humans.

I felt like I didn’t have a hope in hell of finding more time to do what I needed to and wanted to so shut off completely.

Until I stumbled across this great book I was given years ago but just never had the time to read. Well, I sat down and read it one day, from cover to cover.  It set me off on my journey to making things work better for me, by finding other people who seemed like they knew what they were doing and trying it for myself.

This is what has worked for me.

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1.  Get a goal, a clear focus or dream.  Something to use as an anchor everyday.

By having a goal it helps you to have focus and prioritise what you need to do and love to do as opposed to all the shady little great areas in between where we worry about this and that.  It is in this space that we actually waste a lot of our precious time.

2.  Shred the task list and instead work to intentions.  This one totally blew my mind. My business coach gave me this wee tool and it is the single most life changing thing that has helped me across the board. I used to get overwhelmed by task lists and had everything on there that I needed to complete, well so I thought.  The thing is, those tasks were still taking up precious head space even after writing them down. They were staring at me daily and if I didn’t get to ticking them off that day I would feel like crap and useless.  Now I focus on only 3 intentions a day, (not including housework because that is a given and autopilot to some degree, they don’t take up head space).  I list my top 3 activities that I know will get me the most gains in my day toward my goal and anything else I get done after that is a bonus.  It really stops me from fluffing about.

3.  Take action, everyday and use the 5 sec rule.  So yes we all know that taking action is pretty logical right, but what about when you just don’t want to? Thats where the 5 sec rule comes in. I had been doing this all my sporting life but didn’t realise it until I came across Mel Robins Tedtalk on the 5 sec rule.  Basically she says  you have 5 secs to make a decision because after that all of your excuses get the better of you. So nip it in the mud before it even gets a chance. My way to combat this is to remove as many of the excuses as possible, like preparation, of meals or gear I need to get going, or making sure I have all the right information. Its too easy to make an excuse if we have one little piece of the puzzle not at our finger tips right.

All these little hacks have helped me to be way more productive leaving me more energised and just happy which makes me a better person to be around for my kids and family.

Hope they help you too.

As a Mindset trainer I love helping others shift through any mental or emotional blocks that are holding you back from achieving your success, whether it be anxiety, fear, anger and in all areas of life and business.  If you feel you are ready to make some changes and needed a bit of a helping hand flick me an email and lets chat to see if we are the right fit for each other.

Remember, There is nothing bigger than myself!

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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When you just want to curl up into a ball or crawl back under the sheets – do this!

 

 

 

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You are having one of those days huh?

Something is just not going to plan,

No matter how hard you try.

It probably feels like the end of the world,

Or like you have just lost control of everything and are on the edge of falling off the cliff!

SURRENDER,

Surender to what you are feeling, don’t fight it.

The more you resist what is happening the more emotional you get.

When you choose to surrender it’s not giving up or giving in as such.

It’s acknowledging what you are feeling, whats happening right then and there.

There is a big difference.

Because from doing this brings the clarity you need to make good decisions rather than from a place of panic.

A perfect example of this for me is when I am talking with someone and they are trying to get their point across and get really agitated.

I could push back to get my point across, but that just usually ends up with voices being raised and blood starting to boil right.

And then you lose all focus and its becomes a fight to see who gets the last word.

What I do now is breathe, deeply, and it physically gives me the space to step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes.

Once I see whats really happening I am able to decide if I need to push, or accept that this person is not in a space to discuss this right now so move on without causing anymore upset.

Or another example of this for me is when I tore my achilles, four days before my biggest competition I had been training for. I could have totally thrown my toys out of the cot but I decided to surrender to what had happened and I was able to move through what needed to be done calmly.

This is really great for communicating with family members, friends or even clients!

So next time you feel like you are helpless, surrender to the moment and then make your decisions with clarity.

 

Background: I’ve come through the other side of depression to live a fuller life using the strategies and tools I share in my blogs and on my face book page.  My mission is to help others to see that depression is a gift, not an illness and once you can flick that switch in your head you realise you have the power to heal yourself.  I had tried all sorts and nothing worked, until I got the courage to look within.  Now I help women, and men who suffer from anxiety, overwhelm or depression to take back control of their lives whether it be in business or life.

The catch is I only work with people who are truly committed to change and value themselves enough to start taking action.  If this sounds like you book in for a complimentary 30 min strategy session to see how I may be able to help and if we are a good fit.

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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The secret to making shit work for you!

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Psst! I have stumbled onto something pretty damn amazing.

EVERYONE HAS THE POWER TO MANIFEST!

Seriously.

It’s just most people don’t know what to manifest

Or they are so caught up in their daily grind all they manifest is their woes.

Why?

Because where you focus your intention, energy flows. It’s as simple as that.

Most people these days are like “what are you doing that rubbish for?”, as if manifesting was some woo woo, crazy talk kind of thing.

The thing is I believe the word manifest has had a bad rap, possibly because its been abused and misused over the years and people have tried and failed not really understanding whats involved or needed to make it happen.  It’s not a secret pill that will give you a quick fix, unless you have your shit sorted out.

To manifest simply means to ‘demonstrate’ or as an adjective its means ‘obvious, blatant’.

When you unpack it like that it doesn’t seem so scary and out of touch right.

Now, the key to making shit happen for yourself is these three things.

  1. HAVE A DREAM.  Work out what it is you want.  Most people can’t make shit happen because they don’t know what they want. Or worse, they don’t think they are deserving of anything more.
  2. GET SOME SKILLS.  Work out what skills you need to attain, or acquire your goal, dream.  If its weight loss, then perhaps you need to research healthy eating, or if you are wanting to start your own business you would be best to research start ups.
  3. TAKE ACTION.  This is where most people fall over.  They say it, talk about to all their friends and family but don’t actually take action.  So you need to back it up.

Now from here to really manifest the shit out of this you need to journal your heart out.  Write your vision, using all of your senses, what does it look like, smell like, sound like, feel like? Get as much detail as possible into it so you can really feel like you are there already.

Journal as if it has happened already.  And journal how it would make you feel.  If this dream of yours come to fruition, what would that mean for you? For your family?   What wold you do? What can you do now to start the process?  Can you see where I am heading? Can you feel that? Those vibes it’s creating?

It can be real and you can make it happen if you believe it.  Now the final disclosure, you can manifest whatever you want with good intention. Universal law revolves around good intention so if you come from a space of positivity and light it will have your back.

Now, if you have done all theses steps and its still not showing up you obviously have some limiting beliefs holding you back.  It can be challenging delving into what these may be and people usually won’t because they are afraid of what they will uncover. Hence the reason why most people manifest the daily grind.

But, if you know in your gut that you are playing small and really want to achieve those dreams you were too scared to pursue, and can commit to taking the action required then there is hope.

If you need help shredding those old beliefs, and habits I have just the thing to help you. I am starting my Rise and Shine 8 week course up again on the 16th of May.  It is a course that will help you shift from where you are right now away from the anxiety and overwhelm into a place of  FREEDOM, confident and taking action!

And because I am buzzing from the power of my manifesting, for the next 5 people who sign up on the Rise and shine course I will throw in a FREE 90min Planning session (value of $147) with me to help you identify those key points above and get you on track.

Up for the challenge?  Book your spot now and email me.

Lets do this!

 

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

 

 

 

Stuck in a rut? Maybe you are standing in your own way?

For years I would look at other people who looked like they had it all with envy.  I wanted to feel like how they looked, happy, content, excited to greet each day.

My reality was so far removed from that though.

On the outside it all looked pretty awesome.  I even had a friend say,  “yeah she has a cute house, cute dog, cute husband and cute kids, she’s got it all”.

It definitely did not feel like that on the inside.

At home, all I could see was days on end of clouds, or like a really humid day when you see that haze across the horizon, there was no clarity or feeling, just a numbness and an ever deepening hole of sadness.  This might sound weird but I liken it to a horse wearing blinkers, your view narrows, and narrows and so does your hearing.   Almost to the point where you totally distort what is being said.

I don’t know at what point in my life it started for sure, but what I do know is it got worse and worse.  I finally came to a point where I had to do something because deep down I just felt there was more.  Even though I had that negative mind chatter telling me otherwise I couldn’t help but recognise that feeling in the pit of my stomach that something wasn’t right.

I became aware of the two voices in my head and the power of them.  I watched them both and began to learn what they fed off.   It came to a point where I needed to make a decision, because I realised I had a choice and I chose to step out of that space.

It finally dawned on me that I was holding myself back with all the negative talk about being worthy enough, guilt from years of mood swings and lashing out, poor decisions I had made in the past playing over and over in my head and keeping me there.  My rut was caused by me, no one else.  I had to stop blaming everyone else for my situation.  It’s true when they say what you focus on is what you create. I was focussed on drama form my past and kept creating it, over and over.  Initially that made me angry, but then I chose to move forward and it soon became my power to thrive, not to heal but to thrive.

In my journey I had to let go of some friends and family. I had to surround myself with truly authentic people who focus on love and positivity.   Don’t worry, not hippies or anything, just straight up honest down to earth normal people. You see, to be in touch with your inner self you don’t have to be anything but yourself.  It was the mirroring of others that got me in this situation to start with.  Initially I thought some of these friends had ditched me but I realised it was me who was pushing them away because of the stories I was telling myself.

I now navigate my way through life from my whole wellbeing, making sure everything I do impacts on my physical, spiritual, mental/emotional, and social connectedness in some way.  When I operate from this space my life is so much easier, decisions are easy to make and I don’t have the drama around me that I used to because I am clear on where I am, not just where I am headed but right here right now.

What I learned really quickly was spending too much time in the past (most of us do) or trying hard to control the future, we end up in that vicious cycle of drama.  The only thing you can change is right now right here and there very rarely is any problems right now in this moment is there.  Can you see the power in knowing this?  It is key in realising we create the drama ourselves.  And yes, we get put into some situations that are out of our control, but you still get to choose how you react to it.  This is what the fight or flight mechanism was created for, to give yourself the space to make the best decision for your survival and to do that you need to be present.

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Coming off my end of wave in the Hyundai Pro Longboard Tour

 

It takes me back to a day when I was out surfing some really big swell that had come through on the back of a storm.   I got a few nice waves and then my last one (its always the last one), I got smashed.  I tumbled and pushed down by this wave and totally lost my orientation. I didn’t know which way was up and it was dark.   I panicked for a second and went to swim, took three strokes and still did not surface. That’s when it happened, I gave in, surrendered to what was happening.  I was resisting what was happening and my panic got in the way of me being able to make a good decision. As soon as I relaxed, my body floated up to the surface and there I was. I grabbed my board and caught the next whitewash back into the beach.

That is a valuable lesson I will forever hold onto because it taught me the importance of being here right now.  My mind was in a space of panic because all I could think about was what was going to happen to me rather than what was happening.  Can you see the difference? What was going to happen hadn’t played out and was taking all of my focus so as soon as I surrendered to what ‘is’ it gave me the space to make that decisions to relax.

I refuse to accept that depression is an illness. That is what kept me in that space for so long.   And if you were to diagnose me I would say it would have been pretty severe, especially with all the suicide attempts.  What I know now for sure is that this experience has been a gift, an opportunity for me to reset because I had come away from my centre, and now I am whole again and stronger than ever.

I am on a mission to change how people look at depression. It’s not an illness that can be easily medicated, the evidence is right in front of us all in the fact there is none.  Please share with anyone you think needs to hear this.

To do this I have set up my business as a mindset trainer for women, although men follow my page too. This is what gets me excited to get out of bed in the mornings and do what I do.   If you haven’t already please go and LIKE my Facebook page.

If you need some help getting out of your rut flick me an email or PM me on my Facebook page.  I offer a complimentary strategy sessions to help you gain some clarity and to see if we are the right fit for each other.  Because I only work with women who are 100% committed to taking back control of their own lives.

 

Hiria x

Strengthening my connection to me….

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From about the age of 3yrs old I have memories of how my mother used rongoa Maori (maori medicine) in everyday life.
She used to keep bottles of sea water in the wardrobe which would come out for important karakia (incantation).
And I also remember going on adventures into the bush with my dad to retrieve the various plants my mum requested for healing.

When I was about 7 or 8yrs old I vividly remember going up into the bush on my own and collecting the leaves of various native plants, taping them inside my book and labelling them with their name, where I found them and what they were used for.

The ocean played a huge part in our lives too from providing us kai but also healing.
When I look back now to those moments in time I realize they were all lessons.
It’s little wonder I was so attracted to these essential oils at a time in my life that I really needed them.
I’ve always acknowledged our connection to nature because I have witnessed it from a child and seen the amazing things that can happen.
But like most as we grow older and get caught up in that daily grind and hustle and move away to “better ourselves” we slowly close our senses off to that connection.

It’s as though right here tonight I have had an epiphany and can feel the huge responsibility as a Maori to ensure the integrity of rongoa by using ‘correct tikanga’ when working with wairua (spirit) and connecting to the plant, which is the key to potentising its effectiveness.

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I have been using the essential oils for the past 6 months now and the impact it has had on my own healing (torn Achilles) and whanau health has been huge.  I also use them for preparation with my training and getting me in the zone and focused.
I love how it has given me the ability to take responsibility and control over the little things I would usually run off to the doctor for.
I spent years attaining my degree and post grad studying about the human body and what makes it tick inside and out and right now I feel I have finally connected the dots.

What I know now for sure is that it’s not my identity I lost, it was my connection to it.  Pressures of society on how to be made me feel like I had to shut it out.
I am going to share what tools I have used and continue to use in my daily self care/wellness including karakia, exercise, good food, essential oils, and taonga because they all contribute to improving and maintaining my hauora (well-being).
In the meantime if you want to know more about essential oils or other strategies I have used to take back control of my wellness take up my 30min complimentary strategy offer where we can see if we are a good fit and if I have the solution for you.

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As always, much appreciation for following my journey,

 

Hiria x

Some simple strategies for those days when you just don’t want to adult.

I’ve spent my entire adult life and a good chunk of my childhood battling good days and bad days.

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I used to lie in bed till at least 12 o’clock on most days. I had got to a point where I just wasn’t functioning properly anymore and my business, family life and sanity were all paying for it.

There were days where I would wake up and feel like I was just on the wrong side of the bed, usually accompanied by a headache or more common for me (a migraine).

I remember the migraines were intense.  So much so I had to literally lock myself in the bedroom and pull the blinds for total blackout because the light would hurt my eyes and then my head.

I also remember I used to get these migraines after a full weekend away tutoring my students, or when a huge amount of energy was required of me.

I’d wake up, and tell myself its best I go back to bed or it will get worse.

It wasn’t until I realised what was happening. I was starting to see how frail I had become.  I was so out of whack physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually that I just could not function.

I remember how I used to feel and how I could just get up and go and was so fit and strong, and it just made me feel worse.

I knew I had to change something because what I was doing, was not working.

I had to sort my eating because that was pretty poor, mostly no brekkie, or I wouldn’t eat till 11am most days.  And then the rest of the day was pretty random too. By the time I was hungry I would grab the high carb sugary foods like cereals or toast and other processed foods to fill the gap.  That would only make me feel worse.

I also use to just sit in front of the TV all the time and got to know Dr Phil pretty well (lol).

Eventually that little soft-spoken voice inside got cloudier and I decided to do something because I couldn’t live like this.  I was always sick with migraines, colds, I got shingles, and my body was just breaking down with injuries.

I woke up one day and decided that today was the day to start new and reset.

I worked on getting rid of all the unhealthy habits I had settled with and replacing them with healthy ones.  Like eating food as close to its original form as possible, cutting our refined sugars, and no more processed foods (as much as possible).  I also cut out adding dressings because that’s where a lot of sugar likes to hide.

I made a point of focussing on my movements better and not just thrashing my body till it felt numb to escape the boring of my life and pain at the time. I started to enjoying what I was doing again got back out in the water.

I also did a lot of work on me, internally, the self-care stuff.  I never really got the “stare at yourself in the mirror” thing. It just never worked, until I had actually looked beyond the superficial. Once I realised my potential again, and the power I have when I set my heart to it, I just got goosebumps, and when I looked in the mirror again I saw something different in me, I looked brighter, my “eyes were up” and I felt love.  Sounds cheesy maybe but it’s exactly how it played out for me.

I started to use only positive words, and love when I spoke and this in turn changed my body language too and my posture.  I shifted the negative self talk that was controlling me and now I navigate from my heart as I was meant to.

But one of the key things I did and continue to do is #jfdi.  If there is something I need to do I get it done without thinking about it so hard because it’s that point where ego comes in with the negative mind chatter and then all of a sudden, back on the couch!

 

I used this with my headaches to and those days when I feel super tired and just can’t adult.  I ask myself “what am I resisting’ and then the answer will usually come and I realise it’s just me slipping back into old habits.  Within half an hour my headache disappears.

What I know for sure is that if we don’t deal with the emotions and feelings we have inside of us they present in our body physically so that we have to take notice.  So if we can take back control internally we can heal ourselves.  I still have days where I feel super tired and want to blob but that’s when I ask myself what am I feeling? And then I realise I have possibly been doing something that doesn’t sit right with me which is why I feel drained.  The awareness is the key to moving forward. Without that we are stuck.

A lovely woman I recently met said to me “its like a clear day and then there is that one dark cloud, it doesnt stay there forever, it moves on”.  So should we!

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Bit of a long one this one.  I was going to do bullet points but as I started typing I felt I really needed to get this out.  Because I know there are others out there who are working on taking back control of their wellness too.  I hope this helps.

As always thank you for following my journey, with love,

 

Hiria X

When we take accountability for our own wellness, we improve the wellness of our whole community.

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Dark holes, shadows and butterflies… My year in review.

I thought I would jump on the band wagon and do a review of my year and wow!

Flicking through all the pics in my Facebook feed has been amazing.

It’s an instant measure of the tides of life for sure and how I have handled them.

Right now in this moment I am so grateful for all of them.  Because if I hadn’t of had those trials I would not be where I am today.

It’s funny, you hear people who are successful talk about that often but you just don’t get it till it happens to you.

And this is the biggest lesson I have learned to date.  Is to stop trying to please EVERYONE, and focus on my tribe, my collective of awesomeness.

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A year ago I was in such a dark place, one where I struggle to see the light. And couldn’t be bothered to see it.  I felt so stretched, so thin that i had no more to give and I would lie in bed, till later arvo.

I knew it was bad when I was in that space.  Emotionless, I felt invisible.

I couldn’t eat, didn’t want to eat. I struggled to feel anything for my kids, my husband, my friends and totally shut the outdoors out.

There wasn’t much thought, just darkness. A heavy haze, over my heart and fogginess in my mind.

I would flip out at the smallest things. Still trying to maintain my lifestyle outside of home, and then retreat indoors back to my hole.

I would feel guilt, for my babies because of how I would react, or too tired to play and not be interested in anything.  And then guilt for my husband for putting up with me.

I would often wish I would go to sleep and not wake in the morning, feeling it would be better for everyone.  And there had been moments where I acted on that too.

Thankfully, with the love of my husband and kids I was able to pull through.

But not before I pulled myself out of the hole. I always felt deep down inside, and heard a voice actually (because there are two voices) that told me only I could do this.  Not to rely on anyone else. It had to be me. It’s the only way.

I was at the point where I was sos tired of being tired, feeling crazy and feeling like there was so much more that I made the CHOICE.

I woke up, and started to work on my strengths.  I got out all the evidence i had around me of things that helped me feel better and worked on them.

I started paying attention to me (because for years I had not been). I started to take care of myself better, my total well-being.

I enlisted the help of a business coach, an intuitive one and that helped me personally as well.  Because lets face it, being in business is just the best type of personal development course there is.

I started to surround self with positive people, authentic people.

And I started to journal, not like when in school with the Dear Diary styles but focussed, business writing.  By golly gosh has it helped.

Everything I write and post is my truth. I write it for me.  But i have come to know that if i need it, then others probably do too.

Within only a few months I started to notice the difference and felt like I had never felt.  so much happiness and I got my passion back for mu business and life.

Then it happened, I tore my achilies tendon four days out from one of the biggest paddle events I had been training for and was in the running for doing really well at.

I can hear you now, thinking, OMG you poor thing.  And that’s exactly how the majority reacted.  Except for one close friend of mine, and my husband.

They stuck by me, and believed in me.  Because they know what I am capable of, and stubborn.

I decided to paddle, and damn did it freak some people out! The weather was crazy with a 2 metre swell running.  I tell you, I had never felt so strong and focused in my life.  I got out there and just paddled as best I could, passing paddlers, and even guys whose eyes looked as big as saucers from the swell running.

I managed to pull in a third place and made the podium with a Bronze medal!

Since then my life has really taken off!

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I have been working on my recovery and my injury gave me the space to work on some much-needed personal baggage. I have since been shredding all that does not serve me including people, places and things.  It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

And this feeling of joy, is surreal.  In the past it would wear off but this time around it jut keeps growing.

I have learned to love myself again and make sure that I put myself at the centre.  All activities i do must support my whole wellbeing, because lets face it. at the end of the day we all just want freedom and true freedom is total-wellbing.

Since I started all the strategies I have used to get back on track i haven’t once felt like I did, like the hole was still there…

As I began to come out of the darkness I began to dream vivid dreams of sea life. I am a water person and have always enjoyed surfing as my ‘escape’ or meditation. I also started to notice a lot of butterflies around the place, and even inside the house.

It’s quite fitting considering the transformation they go through, and I really feel the like I have been through.

I see the world with so much more colour now and its unreal! I have accepted my purpose in life and feel I have learned the keys to life, now its just a matter of practicing them daily so that I am more conscious more often.

I have achieved some really huge milestones from my vision board and one of them is the start of my own personal business as a mindset Trainer.  It really warms me up to speak my truth and know that it helps other women who are ready to step up and shine bright too. I know that by each of us doing so it adds more light and love to the world and we could definitely do with more of that!

Initially I started working under the banner of Soulwater, which began as my alter ego if you followed me in earlier blogs you will know. But it didn’t quite fit with me because Soulwater was always about my journey, through depression. To honour my own journey I have decided that all future retreats I run I will put a portion of the fee towards a charity for depression and suicide. I struggled with the system and slipped through the cracks but also felt like people tried to box me in, and that is the last thing you should be trying to do with someone who suffered from depression.

I am always learning, and growing, and totally loving it!

I wish for every woman, every man out there who has been to that place to not give up. To keep on. Because you are needed in this world.  You might not know what it is that you have to contribute yet, but it will come.

Keep dreaming, keep believing  and surrender to your awesome

Hiria x

P.S. If you want to know how to work with me come find me on facebook.

https://www.facebook.com/soulwaternz/

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Laptops, meetings, and breastfeeding – It’s what you make it mama!

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I’ve been in business for seven years now and one year in my hubby and I got pregnant with our first little one.  Six years on and now we have three.  They are now aged six, four and one years.  I also have a twenty year old boy is off at university.
Being a working mama is hard.  But no one makes it harder for us then ourselves. Straight up truth right there.
You have a choice as to how you live your life, or live in the conditions of your life.
I left my day job not long after my baby was born and I have had a sharp learning curve with balancing work and my kids.
This word balance has been the bain of my motherhood. We all know what it means but it has become this crazy ideal that doesn’t seem to be achievable.
As always, I reframe things to fit me and have done with balance. But before I go into how I make it work for me I will share a little experience I had that has stuck with me.
I remember coming in from a surf with my hubby, we had our little one and I think I was pregnant.  This guy was leisurely packing up his gear after a surf too and made the comment that having kids was the best thing in life and that if you don’t take the time to enjoy that, then you shouldn’t have kids.
That really messed with my head and it has off and on for years.
I really believed what he said and felt hurt because I was running this business, full-time and trying to raise a baby. So much guilt of being a bad mama.
But, there was something inside me that said that couldn’t be true.  I knew deep down inside that when you become a mama you don’t give up who you are, and that’s essentially what a lot of mama do.  I’ve always been a rule breaker so I was determined to make it work.
I had my latest bub a year ago now and I have kept her home longer.  I put all  the others in care from 6 months old.
Gasp, yes I did.
I did what I had to do at the time.
I have been reflecting on what that guy said to me all those years ago and really working at this work life balance.
How did I do it?
  • Prioritise
  • change language
  • Be present
I had to prioritise my activities and really focus on what would work the best for me and give the best return.
I had to change my language around being busy and set positive affirmations in place to ensure my subconscious was working for me and not against me.
And finally I really had to work on being present, in the moment.  I know everyone is talking about being present these days but you know why? Because it bloody works and is truth!
I took lessons from my training dairy and how I approach my training and mirrored it in my work and family life.  Seems like a no brainer to me now but it was a like a huge epiphany to me at the time!
We generally don’t see these signs until we slow down a bit and take notice.
So I urge you mama to keep on keeping on, but do it your way. You know its your way when you feel enlightened and valued.  But as soon as you begin to feel let down or betrayed you know you have come out of alignment.
If you want to know more about how I reframe it to work for me please get in touch. I would love to share my experience with you. You can  also grab a copy of my  How to be more Kick-assy for FREE.  Flick me an email on soulwaternz@gmail.com
I believe that the energy we put out there really impacts on the world so please if you found this useful pass it on.
As always thanks for tuning in,
Hiria x
#workingmama #balance

3 Simple ways to keep your sanity through Christmas – from a mama that knows

We are still in November and all the christmas decorations and trees are already up in the malls! What the heck?
And, did you know that NZ Post has changed their delivery days so that means you need to be even more organised this Christmas to make sure your Christmas cards make it to where they need to go in time.
Ok, I’m just rubbing it in now.
Panic stations!
If you are anything like me christmas is one of the most stressful times of year. Deciding where to go, who’ turn is it to host christmas, presents to buy, food to cook, baking to do, trailers to load, oh my gosh the checklist is endless.  And thats just the christmas part.  What about work? and finalising things before the end of the year for shut down, oh and thats if you do shutdown.
So, feeling overwhelmed?
We get overwhelmed when we think about all the things that we need to do, in the future.
I can hear you now,
I need to do this,
I need to do that,
I need to take the cat to the cattery,
I need to put the rubbish out,
I need to wash the car,
I need to buy a turkey?
All these things take up space in our heads and if we are not careful and lead us into a major spin out.
No one wants to spend christmas feeling crazy.
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So I have put together a couple of steps to help you through your christmas.
Step 1.  Get it out of your head.  Grab a journal or your diary and write out all the things you need to do.  Everything that is taking up space in your head.  This little act in itself can relieve loads of pressure, physically too. It’s like a weight of  your shoulders.
Step 2.  Prioritise with your heart. Now I used to hate doing this sort of thing because when I wrote out all my lists it would overwhelm me even more.  But that was till I learned how to prioritise. So now i prioritise with my heart.  Scan the list and pull out what tugs at your heart strings the most. Most of the time our to do list is made of little things that don’t really matter.  What matters is what will make you feel better and happier. So get those heart strings going.
Step 3.  Choose 3 things from this list to do each day leading up to Christmas. Look for the little things that give have big consequences. It’s all about taking consistent action daily.
Start doing these things and you will end the year with so much more energy and stay sane because you have cleared your headspace and set a direct path of what you need to do.  It really is simple stuff.  No magic formulas.
I have also put together this fabulous one day retreat with the beautiful Karoline from Intuitive Wellness, for woman like you who are keen to have the best christmasy christmas this year and really be present.
It’s an opportunity to put yourself first, get moving, eat some great food, practice some mindfulness and then get into the business end where we help you to prioritise your schedule for the end of the year so you can spend it living it up.
If this sounds like you please go and check out the event page or PM or email soulwaternz@gmail.com
Go book your ticket now beautiful and join us x
Hiria x
#christmas #energy #sanity #overwhelm