Three simple areas that may help improve your boat speed. How are you doing them?

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You can take your paddle and attack the water with it, straining every muscle in your body, throwing up rooster tails behind you.

Or you can slice your blade into the water, anchoring it solidly and using your entire torso, pulling it smoothly and evenly with much better results.

This is an excerpt I came across years ago when I was studying on the waka ama course with Matahi Brightwell in Gisborne.

It really stood out to me and made sense.  I was trying to damn hard!

Like with anything new, you go hundy because you are just so excited and in to it, so I get that.

If you are wanting to improve your paddling, before you start trying all the technique tricks under the sun or buying a lighter more streamlined canoe here are a couple of things you should check first.

  • Are you getting a good catch?

I talk about getting a good catch a lot! It’s the start of your stroke, and if you don’t got that you got nothing.   What is a good catch? Making sure you enter the blade nice and clean, anchoring your paddle at a positive angle.  There are two angles you can use, 45 or 90. Obviously a 45 degree angle will give you more of a power phase.  It will help you to lift the boat. But, then you need to think about maintenance once the boat is up and running and that’s where the 90 degree angle can come in handy.  Just when you thought it was a one stroke fits all huh?  The kind of strokes you use will all depend on your fitness, body type and what you can maintain.  But I won’t go there right now as it’s a big enough topic on its own.

  • Are you holding the catch?

Now you have the catch, you are supposed to hold that pressure through your stroke. A catch on its own is not enough.  Don’t let it slip.

  • Are you getting a smooth exit?

Once you have released the pressure on the blade (this should be once the paddle is by your hip usually, just before it moves to a negative angle) you need to pull it out in a way that does not disrupt the glide of your canoe.  Many will just rip it out, but you want to let it pop out on its own, effortlessly.

Check these three things, adjust accordingly and your boat speed should definitely pick up.  Always try working on yourself before jumping into the easy option, and often more costly options for improvements.  This is where the real stuff is and will make the difference on the line when you decide you are all in.

I am by no means an expert, but I am the Master of my own journey and the information I share is based on my own personal experience and improvement in paddling, guided along the way by my mentors and coaches.

As always thank you for following my page and if anything in this blog has given you an ‘aha’ moment please jump on my Facebook page and leave a comment.  You never know how many other people feel the same way you do or did.

Hiria x

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Give yourself permission to make mistakes – lessons from Aito Tahiti

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Tui and I on the finish line Aito Tahiti 2017 Open and Master Women.

As I positioned myself on the start line I was overwhelmed with feelings of fear.

It was in that moment I realised I hadn’t thought about my race plan at all, I felt pretty dumb for missing that important part.

The race start felt like forever.  That time from when the red flag goes up and then the green.  There was lots of pushing and shoving going on with paddlers trying to get the best start they could.  I remember hearing Hinatea Bernadino yelling out “given me space, give me space”.  She ended up paddling out and right around to the side to reset.  I know there was at least one other wave of paddlers behind me.

After one paddler had pushed her way through she grabbed my ama in an attempt to better position herself.  My first thought was that I wanted to slap her upside the head but my better self showed up and thought I would show her in the race whose boss.

It was a gnarly start, kind of like dodgems with canoes crashing right in front of me.  I had a feeling to just stay back because I didn’t want to flip, it proved to be the right thing to do as a gap opened up in front of me after the carnage.  However it meant that I had a lot of ground to try and make up.  I took my opportunity and booted it out of there.

By this time I knew I was a wee way back from the front pack and lost my bearings.  I decided to just focus on me and making every stroke count.

I pulled away from the pack I was in and was making small gains picking off paddlers one by one.  I had two other paddlers flank me for most of the course.  It was a head wind on the way up to the first turn marker, but there were little bumps that I was able to capitalise on pushing me in front of the other two.

As we neared the half way mark I started to notice some of the other paddlers, our top NZ paddlers, I could see Vesna, Mari and Marama and I got all excited.  I realised then I had to try to make up as much ground as possible before the turn as once they round the marker it’s all downwind and trying to catch someone on a downwind is pretty hard if they are on a roll.

I passed one more paddler before the marker and then the whole race changed.

As soon as I got around the turn marker the water was heavy, and all over the place.  I realised I hadn’t had much to drink either.  I didn’t want to risk stopping and have someone pass me.

Just over half way back down the reef my thoughts wandered to the paddler in front of me.  It was Marama Elkington, one of our top NZ junior and opens paddlers.  I could see her getting closer and closer but then I started to feel like crap.  I had made up a little refuel drink for me to take about 6 kms from the finish but again I couldn’t bring myself to taking it.  The internal chatter started.  I was thinking about all the stuff I should have done, had I done enough, who was I to think I should be there, and be up there with these other awesome paddlers.

I started to feel tired, but not my body, my brain, and then the two paddlers who had flanked me most of the race were gaining on me and ended up passing me.  We were at the end of the surf run by now and rounding the last turn, I took the inside right along the reef and it was the heaviest feeling ever.  To my right, Tui MCCaull had taken a wider line and she just zoomed by.  My brain was so tired by now I wasn’t quick enough to make any good decisions so just kept paddling hard to the finish line which was only about 500m away!  Within 10 minutes I had gone from being in 7th place to 9th!

I was just grateful I made it over the line and that I managed to come in where I did.  And that was 9th out of 36 paddlers in my division and 16th overall out of 80 women paddlers.

In reflection I had so many what ifs but since then have come to recognise all the learning in the lead up to the race and after.

The week leading up to the race was pretty stressful, in the sense I was in a different country, it was hot, and my baby was really sick.  I had spent most nights sleepless trying to comfort her through the night.  There was also a lot of stress around from having my whole whanau there and whanau expectations.  More lessons that I will share later on.  These are all important things I know I need to share because these days there are more mama taking on the challenge of being an elite athlete and we are faced with a whole other set of challenges that will only make us stronger.

So many things I could have done better but I’m happy in knowing I went out there, did a pretty good job and are now hungry for more.  Its given me a taste and glimpse of what is possible and I am now on a mission to make that happen.

And that is to be the best paddler I can be because I know by doing that it will create a snowball effect of so many health and wellness benefits for me and my whanau.  It’s unlimited potential! Who knows where it may lead?

Thank you to everyone who supported me to get to Tahiti and gave me words of encouragement, hugs, kisses and butt-kicks along the way.  I am blessed to have so many awesome people around me.

Hiria x

NB: Aito Tahiti is the most important individual va’a race in Polynesia with a distance of 15km with a downwind surf leg.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Top five mistakes novice paddlers make when they start out

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“Just get in and follow the person in front of you” they said.  sound familiar?

Yep that was my intro to waka ama too.   I’ve learned a lot by trial and error since then but the biggest thing I had to do was unlearn all the bad habits I had picked up from coaches along the way.   I have spent the last two years going back over my stroke, breaking it down into fundamentals and basically start over.  Through that I picked up some key areas I notice other novice paddlers make or are still making.  There is more than just five but I have focussed on some key ones I think are important in getting a good start.

1.  Many paddlers don’t get a good catch.

There are many paddlers, who instead of starting with a good catch by getting a good angle on the blade, they are pulling before the blade is buried.  This makes the stroke inefficient and reduces the potential for glide of a canoe and speed.

They usually have a negative angle, meaning blade enters the water after 90 degrees, after the power phase, which pushes the canoe down reducing glide.

They usually pull the paddle before it is planted.  This can look like the wheels are spinning, or feel like it’s really easy to pull through the water, meaning you actually haven’t grabbed much water so won’t be going far.

They also do a double movement at the catch.  Something I used to be guilty of until recently.  And it came down to my interpretation of what was most important, or what I was taught about catch.  Told to spear it like a fish and then push and pull. Sequence is important in a stroke and making sure everything is engaged together to push, pull and drive together really is as hard as it sounds.

2.  Top arm elbow is too high.

I don’t normally get caught up in exactly where peoples areas and legs should be except when it comes down to efficiency and injury prevention.

Many paddlers when starting out flare their elbow out above their head to try and get reach.  This opens up the shoulder and rotator cuff to extreme pressure and potential injury and also limits the application of power production. Its best to keep your elbow below your shoulder to make the most of your power.

A good way to tell if you elbow is too high, have a look at your shadow.   Or if you are starting to feel discomfort in your shoulder area this could be why.

3.  Many novice paddlers suffer from the death grip

They hold the paddle too tight.  When I first started paddling I used to get really sore forearms.  I learnt pretty quickly it was because of my grip.

It is important to keep a relaxed grip on your paddle to avoid blowing up your forearm muscles.  Staying relaxed helps you to recover in your recovery phase of the stroke.

4.  Most beginners lean on the ama making the canoe tippy.

I know as a beginner is really easy to just lean left, especially when the ama lifts a little. The thing is you need to get used to being comfortable with the uncomfortable and balance your posture.  When the ama lifts everyones first reaction is to lean left, and then the ama usually jerks right and hello huli!

It also reduces the glide of your canoe.  Try sitting more balanced, so weight across both cheeks and use your core. This sets you up for so much more efficient paddling in the long run and less injuries.

5.  Most new paddlers just jump in the waka and go.

This I believe is partly due to the club culture, but at some point there needs to be a connection with your surroundings, other paddlers, the water, and whats going on around you.  There are hints to help you perform better in the natural environment, as corny as it may sound it’s totally true.   I see it all the time with people who are new to the ocean, they attack the water instead of falling into its natural flow.

Ok so now what?

You can’t fix something if you don’t know its broke so have a look and analyse where you are at first.  The best way to work out if you are doing these things is to ask your coach, or someone you can trust to be honest with you.  Otherwise get someone to film you and give you the proof.

Once you know what you need go about finding someone to help you fix it. I have a bunch of resources from my own journey of sorting out my stroke and would be happy to share with you.  Or if you are a bit more serious about sorting yourself out drop me a line and lets chat.

If there is anything in here that has created a lightbulb moment for you please jump on my facebook page and share.  It would be great to get more discussion going around it.  Paddling can be so isolating at times and its easy to lose motivation when we think we are on our own.

As always, thanks for following my journey,

 

Hiria x

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Confession time – Showing up as my true self isn’t always easy

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Having courage to stand out.

That feeling you get when you are so excited about something, but nervous at the same time of how people will react.

That was me about a week ago.

I was at a writers workshop (to get me in my zone for my book, thesis), when the writing prompts we were given brought gave me an epiphany ( I seem to have these a lot this year).

It suddenly dawned on me that everything I have studied over the years, taught in school, uni and through the wananga as well as my time as a public health advocate, were all pointing to one thing – sports psychology.

When I was living in Australia back in my teens I wanted to come back to NZ and study psychology, its always interested me.  But my pull to do sports was stronger and I ended up doing a Bachelor of Sport and Recreation first.  It was in my undergrad years that I got a taste of sports psych and learned a lot of simple tools around how to excel in sports and why some athletes don’t.  And I got to cover this again in my post grad papers and coaching.  However I left it at that and went on to explore other areas.

There are lessons in everything we do.

I’ve played representative sport most of my life to a high level but I always used to ‘choke’ when it really mattered.   Choking is when an athlete focuses too much on the future outcome and the negative thoughts create that emotional reaction resulting in them choking.

I soon began to realise that I did this off the field too, in life, when I had big things going, important things.

Getting back to how showing up as me isn’t always easy, well, it takes guts to step out on your own and speak your own truth, anyone knows that.  So when I had this thought about what I should be focussing on, combining my strengths as a paddler with my education it made sense, but I had that little voice in my head saying “who are you to think that” and “what makes you so special”, my ego was really doing a doozy on me.

Love and kindness

I’m lucky I am now surrounded by some very seriously strong ambitious women who see how lifting others up helps lift us all and they reminded me to kick the mind chatter and that I got this.

So I decided to hone in my skills and focus on working with paddlers.  I made a name change from Mindset Trainer for women to Paddlers!

One simple word has the power to change so much.  It really is true.  Since doing this I have had lots of activity happening, posts, likes, comments and paddlers reaching out asking for me to work with them on mindset as they have seen with their own eyes my own transformation and progression in my paddling.

What I truly know for sure is we teach through experience, and if you have the knowledge to go with that then thats a bonus isn’t it.

I’m only just beginning.

All this work I’ve done on my self development, and I still have trouble stepping up into my truth.  But thats life right, forever learning, new challenges, new growth.  It’s the evolutionary journey of transformation.

Now that I have come full circle I can see where all my past experiences fit and I am totally making it work for me.  No regrets, just gratitude for the learning I have had. When I have those days where I feel unsure about showing up in my totality I remind myself of why I am doing this, and that is because I have a story to tell and feel deep in my heart that there is someone else out there on a similar journey that needs to hear it so that they too can step up and then pay it forward to others.  In the hope that we all end up living this life as our best selves in what ever it is we choose.

Thank you as always for taking the time to read.  If you want to follow me checkout my Facebook page  or check me out on instagram 

 

Hiria x

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My top 6 High performance mindset hacks for everyday life

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What if you approached each day with intent and purpose just as elites do, rather than waking up into ground hog day.  And brought out your inner champion in your life or business?

If your first thoughts are,

because its hard work,

I don’t have time

Well, then sorry dear you are in the wrong place so should probably stop reading.

 

Still here?

Then sweet, you are on the right track to making your dreams come true.

Elite athletes have drive, determination, focus and ambition, much the same as anyone who is passionate about what they do.  It makes sense to apply the same logic to your life or business as they do to their sport.  I mean, why wouldn’t you right?

Here’s my tips on having a high performance mindset. Give them a bash and see what is possible for you.

  • be you first.  When you are strong in who you are and your identity opportunities open up to you.  This is where confidence comes from.
  • have a plan or goal. This gives focus and will be your anchor when you hit those tough days.
  • visualise it, athletes use mental imagery a lot to create realness around your goal.  visualise the process, not just the end goal. Visualise how you feel, what the environment is like so that you are prepared mentally and your session plays out as you wish.
  • Take action, daily.  Its the daily act of showing up that matters. it doesn’t always have to be physically, but you do have to pay some attention to your goal daily even if its resting or planning, something that keeps in the front of your mind.
  • Have balance, so learn when rest is needed.  Without sleep our body cannot grow and neither can our mind.  Its just as important as good nutrition and hydration so make sure you do this.
  • seek help or guidance when needed from a coach.  How many top athletes do you know got their on their own? Seriously?  You will always find someone has been at their side at some stage.  A coach is able to offer unbiased, real time feedback and give you that accountability boot when it gets hard and you start to slack off.
  • Attitude. The kind of attitude you approach your goals with will determine the outcome. So if you want good things to happen you need to think good things. Learn how to rewire your brain and mindset to produce positive verbal and body language and thats what you will receive.

If you liked this please share the love with someone else. And thank you for reading.

 

Go get em champion!

Hiria x

 

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Three hacks to finding more time to do the things that light you up!

Hey babe,

You are either reading this because you value your time and will do anything to try and find more of it.  Or you are at a loss as to how other people are able to fit so much into their day.

Lets start with time itself. What are your first thoughts or feelings when you hear that word?

I usually get my back up and then my eyes glaze over.

You know why?

Because it seems to be all people talk about today, like it is the single most important commodity that drives humans.

I felt like I didn’t have a hope in hell of finding more time to do what I needed to and wanted to so shut off completely.

Until I stumbled across this great book I was given years ago but just never had the time to read. Well, I sat down and read it one day, from cover to cover.  It set me off on my journey to making things work better for me, by finding other people who seemed like they knew what they were doing and trying it for myself.

This is what has worked for me.

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1.  Get a goal, a clear focus or dream.  Something to use as an anchor everyday.

By having a goal it helps you to have focus and prioritise what you need to do and love to do as opposed to all the shady little great areas in between where we worry about this and that.  It is in this space that we actually waste a lot of our precious time.

2.  Shred the task list and instead work to intentions.  This one totally blew my mind. My business coach gave me this wee tool and it is the single most life changing thing that has helped me across the board. I used to get overwhelmed by task lists and had everything on there that I needed to complete, well so I thought.  The thing is, those tasks were still taking up precious head space even after writing them down. They were staring at me daily and if I didn’t get to ticking them off that day I would feel like crap and useless.  Now I focus on only 3 intentions a day, (not including housework because that is a given and autopilot to some degree, they don’t take up head space).  I list my top 3 activities that I know will get me the most gains in my day toward my goal and anything else I get done after that is a bonus.  It really stops me from fluffing about.

3.  Take action, everyday and use the 5 sec rule.  So yes we all know that taking action is pretty logical right, but what about when you just don’t want to? Thats where the 5 sec rule comes in. I had been doing this all my sporting life but didn’t realise it until I came across Mel Robins Tedtalk on the 5 sec rule.  Basically she says  you have 5 secs to make a decision because after that all of your excuses get the better of you. So nip it in the mud before it even gets a chance. My way to combat this is to remove as many of the excuses as possible, like preparation, of meals or gear I need to get going, or making sure I have all the right information. Its too easy to make an excuse if we have one little piece of the puzzle not at our finger tips right.

All these little hacks have helped me to be way more productive leaving me more energised and just happy which makes me a better person to be around for my kids and family.

Hope they help you too.

As a Mindset trainer I love helping others shift through any mental or emotional blocks that are holding you back from achieving your success, whether it be anxiety, fear, anger and in all areas of life and business.  If you feel you are ready to make some changes and needed a bit of a helping hand flick me an email and lets chat to see if we are the right fit for each other.

Remember, There is nothing bigger than myself!

Hiria x

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When you just want to curl up into a ball or crawl back under the sheets – do this!

 

 

 

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You are having one of those days huh?

Something is just not going to plan,

No matter how hard you try.

It probably feels like the end of the world,

Or like you have just lost control of everything and are on the edge of falling off the cliff!

SURRENDER,

Surender to what you are feeling, don’t fight it.

The more you resist what is happening the more emotional you get.

When you choose to surrender it’s not giving up or giving in as such.

It’s acknowledging what you are feeling, whats happening right then and there.

There is a big difference.

Because from doing this brings the clarity you need to make good decisions rather than from a place of panic.

A perfect example of this for me is when I am talking with someone and they are trying to get their point across and get really agitated.

I could push back to get my point across, but that just usually ends up with voices being raised and blood starting to boil right.

And then you lose all focus and its becomes a fight to see who gets the last word.

What I do now is breathe, deeply, and it physically gives me the space to step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes.

Once I see whats really happening I am able to decide if I need to push, or accept that this person is not in a space to discuss this right now so move on without causing anymore upset.

Or another example of this for me is when I tore my achilles, four days before my biggest competition I had been training for. I could have totally thrown my toys out of the cot but I decided to surrender to what had happened and I was able to move through what needed to be done calmly.

This is really great for communicating with family members, friends or even clients!

So next time you feel like you are helpless, surrender to the moment and then make your decisions with clarity.

 

Background: I’ve come through the other side of depression to live a fuller life using the strategies and tools I share in my blogs and on my face book page.  My mission is to help others to see that depression is a gift, not an illness and once you can flick that switch in your head you realise you have the power to heal yourself.  I had tried all sorts and nothing worked, until I got the courage to look within.  Now I help women, and men who suffer from anxiety, overwhelm or depression to take back control of their lives whether it be in business or life.

The catch is I only work with people who are truly committed to change and value themselves enough to start taking action.  If this sounds like you book in for a complimentary 30 min strategy session to see how I may be able to help and if we are a good fit.

Hiria x

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The secret to making shit work for you!

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Psst! I have stumbled onto something pretty damn amazing.

EVERYONE HAS THE POWER TO MANIFEST!

Seriously.

It’s just most people don’t know what to manifest

Or they are so caught up in their daily grind all they manifest is their woes.

Why?

Because where you focus your intention, energy flows. It’s as simple as that.

Most people these days are like “what are you doing that rubbish for?”, as if manifesting was some woo woo, crazy talk kind of thing.

The thing is I believe the word manifest has had a bad rap, possibly because its been abused and misused over the years and people have tried and failed not really understanding whats involved or needed to make it happen.  It’s not a secret pill that will give you a quick fix, unless you have your shit sorted out.

To manifest simply means to ‘demonstrate’ or as an adjective its means ‘obvious, blatant’.

When you unpack it like that it doesn’t seem so scary and out of touch right.

Now, the key to making shit happen for yourself is these three things.

  1. HAVE A DREAM.  Work out what it is you want.  Most people can’t make shit happen because they don’t know what they want. Or worse, they don’t think they are deserving of anything more.
  2. GET SOME SKILLS.  Work out what skills you need to attain, or acquire your goal, dream.  If its weight loss, then perhaps you need to research healthy eating, or if you are wanting to start your own business you would be best to research start ups.
  3. TAKE ACTION.  This is where most people fall over.  They say it, talk about to all their friends and family but don’t actually take action.  So you need to back it up.

Now from here to really manifest the shit out of this you need to journal your heart out.  Write your vision, using all of your senses, what does it look like, smell like, sound like, feel like? Get as much detail as possible into it so you can really feel like you are there already.

Journal as if it has happened already.  And journal how it would make you feel.  If this dream of yours come to fruition, what would that mean for you? For your family?   What wold you do? What can you do now to start the process?  Can you see where I am heading? Can you feel that? Those vibes it’s creating?

It can be real and you can make it happen if you believe it.  Now the final disclosure, you can manifest whatever you want with good intention. Universal law revolves around good intention so if you come from a space of positivity and light it will have your back.

Now, if you have done all theses steps and its still not showing up you obviously have some limiting beliefs holding you back.  It can be challenging delving into what these may be and people usually won’t because they are afraid of what they will uncover. Hence the reason why most people manifest the daily grind.

But, if you know in your gut that you are playing small and really want to achieve those dreams you were too scared to pursue, and can commit to taking the action required then there is hope.

If you need help shredding those old beliefs, and habits I have just the thing to help you. I am starting my Rise and Shine 8 week course up again on the 16th of May.  It is a course that will help you shift from where you are right now away from the anxiety and overwhelm into a place of  FREEDOM, confident and taking action!

And because I am buzzing from the power of my manifesting, for the next 5 people who sign up on the Rise and shine course I will throw in a FREE 90min Planning session (value of $147) with me to help you identify those key points above and get you on track.

Up for the challenge?  Book your spot now and email me.

Lets do this!

 

Hiria x

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Stuck in a rut? Maybe you are standing in your own way?

For years I would look at other people who looked like they had it all with envy.  I wanted to feel like how they looked, happy, content, excited to greet each day.

My reality was so far removed from that though.

On the outside it all looked pretty awesome.  I even had a friend say,  “yeah she has a cute house, cute dog, cute husband and cute kids, she’s got it all”.

It definitely did not feel like that on the inside.

At home, all I could see was days on end of clouds, or like a really humid day when you see that haze across the horizon, there was no clarity or feeling, just a numbness and an ever deepening hole of sadness.  This might sound weird but I liken it to a horse wearing blinkers, your view narrows, and narrows and so does your hearing.   Almost to the point where you totally distort what is being said.

I don’t know at what point in my life it started for sure, but what I do know is it got worse and worse.  I finally came to a point where I had to do something because deep down I just felt there was more.  Even though I had that negative mind chatter telling me otherwise I couldn’t help but recognise that feeling in the pit of my stomach that something wasn’t right.

I became aware of the two voices in my head and the power of them.  I watched them both and began to learn what they fed off.   It came to a point where I needed to make a decision, because I realised I had a choice and I chose to step out of that space.

It finally dawned on me that I was holding myself back with all the negative talk about being worthy enough, guilt from years of mood swings and lashing out, poor decisions I had made in the past playing over and over in my head and keeping me there.  My rut was caused by me, no one else.  I had to stop blaming everyone else for my situation.  It’s true when they say what you focus on is what you create. I was focussed on drama form my past and kept creating it, over and over.  Initially that made me angry, but then I chose to move forward and it soon became my power to thrive, not to heal but to thrive.

In my journey I had to let go of some friends and family. I had to surround myself with truly authentic people who focus on love and positivity.   Don’t worry, not hippies or anything, just straight up honest down to earth normal people. You see, to be in touch with your inner self you don’t have to be anything but yourself.  It was the mirroring of others that got me in this situation to start with.  Initially I thought some of these friends had ditched me but I realised it was me who was pushing them away because of the stories I was telling myself.

I now navigate my way through life from my whole wellbeing, making sure everything I do impacts on my physical, spiritual, mental/emotional, and social connectedness in some way.  When I operate from this space my life is so much easier, decisions are easy to make and I don’t have the drama around me that I used to because I am clear on where I am, not just where I am headed but right here right now.

What I learned really quickly was spending too much time in the past (most of us do) or trying hard to control the future, we end up in that vicious cycle of drama.  The only thing you can change is right now right here and there very rarely is any problems right now in this moment is there.  Can you see the power in knowing this?  It is key in realising we create the drama ourselves.  And yes, we get put into some situations that are out of our control, but you still get to choose how you react to it.  This is what the fight or flight mechanism was created for, to give yourself the space to make the best decision for your survival and to do that you need to be present.

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Coming off my end of wave in the Hyundai Pro Longboard Tour

 

It takes me back to a day when I was out surfing some really big swell that had come through on the back of a storm.   I got a few nice waves and then my last one (its always the last one), I got smashed.  I tumbled and pushed down by this wave and totally lost my orientation. I didn’t know which way was up and it was dark.   I panicked for a second and went to swim, took three strokes and still did not surface. That’s when it happened, I gave in, surrendered to what was happening.  I was resisting what was happening and my panic got in the way of me being able to make a good decision. As soon as I relaxed, my body floated up to the surface and there I was. I grabbed my board and caught the next whitewash back into the beach.

That is a valuable lesson I will forever hold onto because it taught me the importance of being here right now.  My mind was in a space of panic because all I could think about was what was going to happen to me rather than what was happening.  Can you see the difference? What was going to happen hadn’t played out and was taking all of my focus so as soon as I surrendered to what ‘is’ it gave me the space to make that decisions to relax.

I refuse to accept that depression is an illness. That is what kept me in that space for so long.   And if you were to diagnose me I would say it would have been pretty severe, especially with all the suicide attempts.  What I know now for sure is that this experience has been a gift, an opportunity for me to reset because I had come away from my centre, and now I am whole again and stronger than ever.

I am on a mission to change how people look at depression. It’s not an illness that can be easily medicated, the evidence is right in front of us all in the fact there is none.  Please share with anyone you think needs to hear this.

To do this I have set up my business as a mindset trainer for women, although men follow my page too. This is what gets me excited to get out of bed in the mornings and do what I do.   If you haven’t already please go and LIKE my Facebook page.

If you need some help getting out of your rut flick me an email or PM me on my Facebook page.  I offer a complimentary strategy sessions to help you gain some clarity and to see if we are the right fit for each other.  Because I only work with women who are 100% committed to taking back control of their own lives.

 

Hiria x

Strengthening my connection to me….

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From about the age of 3yrs old I have memories of how my mother used rongoa Maori (maori medicine) in everyday life.
She used to keep bottles of sea water in the wardrobe which would come out for important karakia (incantation).
And I also remember going on adventures into the bush with my dad to retrieve the various plants my mum requested for healing.

When I was about 7 or 8yrs old I vividly remember going up into the bush on my own and collecting the leaves of various native plants, taping them inside my book and labelling them with their name, where I found them and what they were used for.

The ocean played a huge part in our lives too from providing us kai but also healing.
When I look back now to those moments in time I realize they were all lessons.
It’s little wonder I was so attracted to these essential oils at a time in my life that I really needed them.
I’ve always acknowledged our connection to nature because I have witnessed it from a child and seen the amazing things that can happen.
But like most as we grow older and get caught up in that daily grind and hustle and move away to “better ourselves” we slowly close our senses off to that connection.

It’s as though right here tonight I have had an epiphany and can feel the huge responsibility as a Maori to ensure the integrity of rongoa by using ‘correct tikanga’ when working with wairua (spirit) and connecting to the plant, which is the key to potentising its effectiveness.

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I have been using the essential oils for the past 6 months now and the impact it has had on my own healing (torn Achilles) and whanau health has been huge.  I also use them for preparation with my training and getting me in the zone and focused.
I love how it has given me the ability to take responsibility and control over the little things I would usually run off to the doctor for.
I spent years attaining my degree and post grad studying about the human body and what makes it tick inside and out and right now I feel I have finally connected the dots.

What I know now for sure is that it’s not my identity I lost, it was my connection to it.  Pressures of society on how to be made me feel like I had to shut it out.
I am going to share what tools I have used and continue to use in my daily self care/wellness including karakia, exercise, good food, essential oils, and taonga because they all contribute to improving and maintaining my hauora (well-being).
In the meantime if you want to know more about essential oils or other strategies I have used to take back control of my wellness take up my 30min complimentary strategy offer where we can see if we are a good fit and if I have the solution for you.

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As always, much appreciation for following my journey,

 

Hiria x