The toughest paddlers are the ones who carry on…..

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Feeling ripped off because the early mornings,   the endless hours, sweat, tears, all seem like a waste of time when you don’t perform on the day?

Then there are the disagreements with friends and family.  When you get a setback or don’t do well they say, “you were training too hard anyway, maybe you should take a break”.

Don’t let their disappointment and fear bring you down.  Yes, they mean well, but seriously,  it’s a projection of their stuff and not being able to handle it, not yours.

The toughest paddlers are the ones who carry oneven when it seems like everything is against them.  Because they understand the importance of failure and its potential to help you up level.  Mentally tough paddlers are those who build resilience.

And that’s exactly where my strengths lie, in helping you to build your resilience, manage  overwhelm, anxiety and fear to make them work for you not against you.Its about learning to work with those emotions, not shutting them off.

A really quick way to start turning around how you respond to setbacks is to check your language.

What words do you say to yourself when you haven’t met your own expectations?  If its negative, then reframe it to build yourself back up.

I have a really great debrief tool to help put things in perspective after a race if it doesn’t go as planned and to help improve for next time.  Drop me an email if you would like a copy free.  YES, please send me a free debrief tool.

If you need an extra helping hand here are two ways you can work with me;

  1. learn online with a virtual training course – Learn more
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Remember, feel the emotion, and then decide what you can do next to improve.

Thanks for reading my little blog, its been random lately but I am making it a priority to get back into it.  Its one of those key learnings for me trying to balance my passion as a coach and training myself!

Hiria xx

#beyourbest

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Whats really holding you back from being your best self on the water?

Not many people like to confront their fears, because they already know the answer and are purposely ignoring or resisting it.

This is where all troubles begin.  And its this stuff that blocks you (subconsciously) on the water.

From this point we create stories to keep us safe and protect ourselves in our little bubble.

Eventually we wake up one day, realise we have hardly any mates, or the ones we do have just don’t do it for you, you are in a place you can’t stand and a job you hate.

All because you turned away your true feelings because you were too afraid to deal with it.

That’s why I’m here.

To call you out.  And walk through it with you.

I’m not about massaging your ego…. I want you to make the real gains because I know it will have such an impact on your life and in return, on others therefore leading to a happier more peaceful world, the DREAM.

Sometimes you need that one person in your life who will give it to you straight.  I ask you the tough questions and also give you the tough answers.

Here are some real questions from real people who I have had to answer.

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“No matter how hard I try to be uplifting and motivating I just can’t get any more out of my crew, and there is one person in particular that manages to undermine some of the women’s progress. Our coach is pretty great and does his best but we just don’t improve no matter what he tries or how he trains us.  I find I am really starting to struggle with this and am losing the love of it.”

Ok, I can totally understand where you are because I’ve been there and experience this every now and then with my role at our club.
It’s a decision you have to make based on your values.

Here’s some advice I gave my hubby who was struggling with something that didn’t sit with him too, it may help.

Every time you do or participate in something that does not align with you, your values, your health, your truth – you lose a piece of your soul.

Sounds dramatic but it’s true. You end up doing things for others that don’t fill your cup first and we can never serve our best when we are not our best.
Do what feels right for you.
It will feel scary like you are cutting everyone out but you know deep down the answer. Doesn’t mean it’s forever.

 

“So keen to know how u deal with it and I think I might be the hater tho…. How much is too much talking in the waka ? Cause I find constructive is fine, but to much be more than 1 person continuous for long paddles gets me worked up… I’m and ova thinking so I try to calm my mind and quiet it down in the 1st couple of km to warm into to the feel of it but I’ve been battling with this because of all the talking in the waka I’m not able to hit the zone it’s frustrating and I’m pissed because I can’t shut them out…..help”

Kia ora ehoa. I hear you on the talking in the waka.  There really needs to be a conversation around this prior to taking to the water so everyone knows the expectation and impact talking has on motivating paddlers.   It basically comes down to what works best for the crew.  Have a good conversation around it, not just a yep no kind of one.  For yourself, its more about looking into what is it that winds you up so much. Is it a particular person, voice, or words? See if it’s pushing your buttons in any other way too just to make sure that it isn’t just you being a hater. Said with lots of love x

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My question is…. the crew dynamic, I thought, was really dependant on how you bond off the water, pre race and post race. But in the moment when 1 person has had the negativity and poured it onto crew (during race) by making remarks such come on they bloody passed us or 3 you’re not pulling! I get they are frustrated. My thinking is I need to be more encouraging, talk to them, ask for the little things in a way not shrieking at them. However after the race I’m always the bad guy, the other person not pulled up, 4 of the 6 crew agree with the negative person, I feel belittled to the point I no longer paddle since moving. How do you pick yourself up from that? It wasn’t one race it was at least 4 races. It took my joy from paddling 😞 how do I come back from that?

Ok, so first things first, we can’t change people, no matter hard we try.   It’s an uphill battle and honestly you should not be wasting your time.  I believe this is a part that is always overlooked in crews for paddling, well waka ama at least. There needs to be a conversation on what makes paddlers tick, some need that aggressive push while others need calming down. This is why we end up with tension in the crew under pressure. It’s sad that it got to this point for you. Its something a good coach encourages…. but if its paddlers coaching that can be hard too. It’s a huge culture shift that needs to happen as we shift from social paddling to competition… You are so not alone in your story and I’m hoping that by being able to talk about all this your experience and story will help change that culture… when you have clarity from the start, expectations, on same page the crew are then able to deal with this stuff…. Just know that it wasn’t all your fault….

“Hiria, what’s your tips for dealing with crap going on amongst paddlers in the club. It’s hard to cut them loose but it’s hard to put up with the rubbish talk and the know it all – I try to stay mutual but that sometimes is harder because you seem to become everyone’s go to person. Basically I fee like I need to trust the crew.  I want to be part of the solution not the problem.”

This is such a common question I get asked. And its tough. I always come back to yourself. Because that is all you have control over.  What is your definition of mutual?  Do you mean by saying you are not taking sides, or by saying nothing at all?  Check your behaviour, your energy, your judgements.   Make sure you are not part of the problem. By allowing yourself to be present when the trash talk is happening and not speaking up to it, you are encouraging it.  This is something that needs to be put in its spot as it happens.  It’s a hard one but the more you do it the easier it gets.  Don’t worry about any judgements other people may or may not make against you.  At the end of the day, you know what is right and what is not, thats all that matters.

I’m starting my MAY Intake of The Outrigger Boot camp later in the month and are looking for ten paddlers to join me.

Over the 8 weeks I will work with helping you see and believe what you truly are capable of doing by sharing my daily strategies and hacks for mindset, technique and life.

If you are serious about making change, then you need to change something.  ‘If you are ready to go all in, then drop me an email or PM me.

Hiria xx

Not convinced? Check out what one of my past paddlers said about the boot camp,

“I signed up for Boot camp mindset for paddlers, rather nervously I might add (this is Hiria after all) and thought I might not make it all the way through the Bootcamp physical side of things, but I came out the end of the eight or so weeks with so much, so many gains lol and a loss. 4.5kg that I didn’t need has gone and that’s just the beginning. The past eight weeks with Hiria has opened my eyes, my mind, my heart even more, and my waka whanau connection. Any wander why I love this sport. Thank you Hiria for my growth in all things waka. Love to you girl, you Rock”

P.S If anything in here has resonated with you please share as you may be doing some else a favour by doing so.

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Drop me an Email to book your spot on the bootcamp x

 

 

Long Distance Nationals – Did it live up to the hype you built for yourself?

COMMITMENT

Training for a long term goal can be hard, I know.  Makes you wonder how our Olympians do it right?

How do you stay focussed for so long?

How do you maintain that physical, mental, emotional and nutritional discipline to reach that end point?

Well, it all comes down to how you prioritise your goal. Is it just the end goal, that outcome of making podium, or top 10, or is it about your personal growth?

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A PERSONAL JOURNEY VS OUTCOME

Some may say that the personal growth and journey stuff is teetz, and too airy fairy but the truth is this is what helps you bounce back when you don’t meet those outcomes the first time around so that you can meet them the next time you try.  It builds resilience and that is something missing in todays society, especially with our younger paddlers.

Too often paddlers will give up thinking they have failed.  They put so much hardwork in and didn’t get the outcome they were hoping for so give up.

I can relate to this because its how I spent my first years in sport, not just paddling (although I did think I was the shiz in paddling ha ha, such a newbie).

An outcome goal is not enough to keep you motivated to get out of bed so early in the morning, or commit to such a huge lifestyle change, because thats what it requires.

When you have thoughts of “oh its sweet, after I finish this I can go back to eating like I did, or not training so much”, these kind of thoughts are what will trip you up in your race because when it gets tough out there its this that creates the negative self talk, the lack of belief in yourself.

TOOLS

Keeping a training journal has helped give me the awareness I needed to deal with these thoughts quickly and easily, giving me the tools to be able to kick it during a race (most of the time).

I say most of the time because the thing is, once we are successful with a challenge, another presents itself.   Its how we grow as human beings.

I used to think, “oh sweet once I get over this hurdle I’ll be sweet,” but yeah nah, they keep coming at you in different ways.  But thats life huh, how boring would it be without a few challenges.  The downs make you appreciate the ups so much more.

FLEXIBILITY

Having a routine is needed, because you do need to be able to measure your improvement somehow.  But be flexible with it.  Just because your programme says each day of the week you have to do this, it doesn’t mean you can’t change it a little.  The weather maybe bad, or you might get sick. Beating yourself up over the programme will only give you more brain damage.

Also, try not to let yourself fall into default with your programme, you know, like groundhog day – where you wake up each day and its the same thing over and over and you end up doing it without thinking.  This is not a good space to be in.

BE INTENTIONAL

Make sure you connect in each day, with why you are doing this in the first place, and be deliberate with your actions, taking conscious action because thats where the gold is.  Its those actions that reset your brain to what works for you and not just being an imitation of someone else.  It sets the pattern for you to be able to react the best way possible for you when you hit challenges out on the water.

There’s nothing worse then coming off the water or in from a training session where you feel like you were just going through the motions.  It feels like a waste of time right? Start backing yourself and honour your time and effort by being intentional.

 

WHAT DID YOU LEARN?

Its never failure when you take away the lessons from it, and there are always lessons. If you don’t see that then you need to start digging a bit deeper, into why you even do what you are doing.

MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

Firstly, I’m pretty damn stoked with myself for what I managed to achieve and the opportunities I had to paddle with some pretty cool paddlers.  But I am going to admit that I did have a moment where I was upset with myself for not trying harder, giving it my best and letting my own self talk get to me.  In all honesty I still have that nasty dialogue go through my mind when it matters most, but, and this is a big one – I no longer let bring me down. Its important to ‘feel’ those feelings, because if you deny it starts a spiral of downward actions and you will end up at the bottom.

I could have sat and wallowed in my pity but I chose to accept it for what it was, I thought I had a shit race, felt bad for a teeny bit then decided, “this ain’t helping me at all” so I let myself move on.  Too often, especially us females, we can hold on to feelings, and let them rule our present and future. This is not healthy for our paddling at all and it starts to subconsciously show up and then we react to it, usually in the wrong way.  This can present itself by not taking up opportunities, or in the waka focussing on someones else role instead of ours, or by nit picking at somebody because they rub you up the wrong way, when in actual fact you are probably seeing your own reflection of what you need to work on yourself.

This is why mindset is so important in your paddling and sport. It’s the stuff that can either make you or break you and is the key to being your best self.

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Open womens 16km Long distance nationals 2017, Dale Thomas Bronze, Hiria Rolleston Silver, Marianna Hodges Gold.

TIPS

When I started writing this blog I thought about doing it as a personal wrap up from my own LDNs, which in a sense it is.  There are definitely elements in this that I need to pay attention to.  Its where my inspiration comes from, lived experience.  But, from conversations I had while there and the themes coming from it this approach felt better to me.

My daily routine consists of the physical aspects of training and connecting in to my surroundings, atua (gods, guardians) which fills me spiritually too, as well as my mental/emotional well-being by checking in with myself to make sure I am being intentional with what I do and making sure my thoughts and feelings are my own and not me getting caught up in someones else stuff.  I do this by journalling, I have a training journal and a business journal which helps me to work through and process my actions.  I also meditate by grabbing a moment to sit still and ask “where am I right now?”  It always brings me right back into the present and gives me clarity.

So, coming back to the title of this, I’m hoping you are still with me here ha ha, yes Long distance Nationals did live up to the hype for me, but I have a whole new bunch of things to work on now, which I’m grateful for because I know its going to help me grow evermore and is another deliberate step toward my dreams and goals.

I am grateful to everyone who came up to me and congratulated me on my medals, thats very humbling.  But even more so thankful to those people who came up to me to share their thoughts and feelings on this mahi (work) I have been doing around mindset. I have always been pretty open about what I do and share from my own experience.  I do have a Sports Science and Sport Psych background too as was a PE teacher once upon a time, so I do have the academic knowledge to back me up (it’s not all made up lol).

I share because my own journey was so difficult that I want to be able to help others.  We have so much talent out there in our communities going unseen because of our current culture around paddling from grassroots to elite.  Not blaming anyone particular person or group, but reminding us all that if we can be more open and not afraid of sharing that you will actually see it helps lift us all.

Would love to know if anything in here as given you a lightbulb moment.  Please share the aroha, share with anyone you think will benefit from this, and then drop me a comment on here or head over to my Facebook page and drop me a comment.

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Hiria x

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You have to back yourself 100% – a year of recovery and transformation

When you get smacked in the face by adversity, will you become resentful or use it as an opportunity to grow?

I was forced to rethink my approach to training when I tore my achilies while weight training in the gym.  I was being my usual competitive self trying to beat the guy next to me in a WOD.

I’d been conditioned to believe that by pushing harder, you get better results.

But from that moment onwards, I was forced to approach my training with a fresh perspective.  I knew that I could get stuck in a victim mindset and let this injury break me, or I could use it as an opportunity to grow.

I had this sense of knowing that my body would back me.  I chose to let go of other people’s fears and worries, and refused to listen to the outside noise that could drain or deplete me.

I chose to focus on being present in the moment, dealing only with the situation in front of me, trusting my own feelings and thoughts and working with “what is” rather than resisting the situation.

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Within days of my injury, I placed 3rd in the Long distance Nationals, Open women’s rudderless Division 2016, in huge swells with my leg in a cast, wrapped in a black rubbish bag.  That’s when I truly understood the power of mindset – and my paddling was transformed forever.

I had spent so long trying to compartmentalise myself, but I now know that what I do inside impacts everything else around me.  I finally understood that I was not alone, and that there is nothing bigger than myself because I am the universe.  When I make the time to connect within, there is no need to be afraid.

Staying connected is a daily practice, a matter of making time to be still, to recognise where I am in this moment.  Am I here? Am I in the future? Am I in the past?

Anger and frustration puts your dreams at risk.  It’s ok to be uncomfortable because that’s where we grow.  You have to back yourself 100% – to find that fire in your belly and be open to the unexpected path.

You have to create space in your head to hear your intuition.  You have to tune into your environment and stay present in the moment.  and you have to work on discovering who you really are, so you can recognise your own thoughts and fears, and let go of everyone elses.

I became conscious of my language, letting go of negativity, comparison, jealousy and over thinking.  Instead I chose to accept the situation and move forward from there, working with what is and focusing what makes me feel good.

Because I was unable to train my lower half, I had to listen to my body to discover what was right for me.  I had to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, to experiment and figure out how my body responded best.  I began recording my observations of my training, noticing how I felt and studying the patterns to learn what worked and what didn’t work for me.

By consciously studying my trainings I became more present and aware and could make changes on the water.  Over time this has become natural and I don’t have to work so hard to get into that space.  I feel I am now so in sync with who I am and my capabilities, that I know my body will back me and I can push myself further, with a sense of ease.

By choosing a different, more conscious and smarter pathway, with less striving, I felt as if I’d stepped into my flow.  My progress accelerated.  I made the Open women’s team for the world Long Distance Champs in  Tahiti.  I am now consistently in the top grouping and keeping up with people whose speed I once envied (still envy).

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Ironically this only happened since I stopped looking at what they were doing and stayed present with myself.  It’s easy to get psyched out by your competitors, but I’ve learned that I’m far more powerful when I’m focusing on doing my thing and making every stroke count.  If I put my focus on where they are in the race – even for one second – my speed drops.  When I bring my focus back my speed picks up.

And now?

I’m a totally different person at home and on the water.  What you see is what you get – everywhere.  I’m less reactive and more in tune, so I don’t fly off the handle so much.  My kids are happier and our household is more settled – and I know things would have been uglier if I hadn’t followed through for myself and pursued my dream.

I have a heightened sense of awareness and I understand that I have a choice in how I respond.  The depression that I’ve carried for 20 years has lifted.

I’m now more loving because I love myself more, and I’ve learned that we shouldn’t be so afraid to show how we feel because it makes people feel better.

Paddling feeds me as a whole person.  When I’m out there on the water, I feel at one with the paddle and the water, connected to everything.  It’s as if I’m giving back, sharing my energy with nature and the universe.  There’s a lightness about me as I glide with the water rather than against it, and a sense of calm that becomes my competitive advantage.

I work with…

People who have hit a wall in their training, are not performing on race day or who have been thrown off course by injury or personal circumstances, and don’t know how to get back on track.   If you are committed to making change contact me on my Facebook page  and lets have a casual chat.

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NB: It’s almost one year since I tore my achilles and we are 20 days out from the next Long Distance Champs.  Follow my lead up to the Nationals on Facebook or instagram.

As always, I am grateful to all those people who believed in me enough to give me a chance and supported me in my recovery, and who continue to do so. You all have a special place in my heart.

 

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

 

 

 

 

 

 

So you think you got Glide? Lessons from the Poor Knights Crossing 2017

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Rikoriko – the start of the Poor Knights Crossing, NZ

The water changed, it felt heavy, the waka dropped and it felt like I was getting pushed around, my mind had gone into default.  Then a voice from behind yelled “she’s coming”.  It was all I needed to pick up my game.

I immediately sat up, drew in a deep breath and started surfing my waka.

I realised I had dropped into paddling for the sake of paddling.  Something that many of us do when we are at that point of exhaustion or feeling of failure.  Almost like giving in.

The more you focus on the present moment, the easier paddling becomes.  You work with the water, feel lighter, have more energy and move with your natural strengths, achieving better results.

I’m not the best paddle surfer in the world but I do know a thing or two about it and the Poor Knights gave me enough time and distance to prove my theory to myself.

Here are a couple of tips for the next time you hit the ocean swell, whether its wind chop, swell or any kind of bump, the principles are the same.

  1. Learn how to read the water. Connect to your surroundings. Being able to read ground swell direction, wind swell/chop, and how the land underneath can impact on how the water moves will be a big help to your paddling if you don’t know already. Be able to identify when a wave is going to break, or even to help you see the lines and know when to push and when to rest your canoe.
  2. Don’t be a robot.  Try and avoid getting caught up in the idea that you need to paddle the whole time.  This is what happened to me once I got passed by the lead open woman.  Lost focus and started to just paddle without thinking about what I was doing or taking notice of the conditions.
  3. Lighten up! It’s better to glide across the top of the waves, than sit in the trough and be at the mercy of the bumps.  How? Consciously sit up, draw in a deep breath and avoid digging your blade too deep.  It’s all about timing but often when we dig deep it can hold the canoe back instead of letting it glide.  Look for the lines, the opening.  It’s often better to go for the small stuff and stay on top instead of riding the big waves and using up all your energy trying to get into them.
  4. Use different gears.  Just like in a 4WD truck, you may need to adjust your setting, meaning you may need to go forward more, or longer, or cut it short. I always try to make every stroke count but adjust it to fit the wave or bump and where my canoe sits on it.  Depending on where the canoe is I will either reach more up front and tap for a couple of strokes, or come back to my side and push the canoe down the face of the wave. There is a balance and need to be able to anticipate the flow of the water,  this is where rudderless paddling comes in handy!
  5. Awareness is key.  There will be moments when you lose focus, as I did but as long as you are aware of it, you can quickly adjust yourself.  I had a feeling I was out of my zone and was lucky I had someone to snap me back in.  I had no one around me for ages and that can be a problem, not knowing where you are in a race.  Unless you go into it with a race strategy (which I didn’t, except to survive).  Perhaps if I had things would have been different.  But I choose not to do the what if’s.  What’s done is done and now I know better for next time.  So it’s all on for 2018!

At the end of the day it’s really about having fun.  I was out there yelling and screaming to myself because I was just enjoying each ride (well most of the time).

Paddling feeds me as a whole person.  When I’m out there on the water, I feel at one with the paddle and the water, connected to everything.  It’s as if I’m giving back, sharing my energy with nature and the universe.  There’s a lightness about me as I glide with the water rather than against it, and a serene sense of calm that becomes my competitive advantage.

If you are serious about wanting to improve your paddling performance and don’t know where to start or have tried a bunch of stuff and still not getting results, maybe you need to dig a little deeper and find out whats really holding you back.

I am about to open the doors to my new online outrigger coaching programme and would love to have you join me.  Find me on Facebook and PM me or send an email to outrigger programme.

A big mihi to everyone who follows me and has had the courage to come up and introduce themselves at events or reach out online.  It’s pretty cool meeting people from overseas, it’s humbling actually.  I really do value your time and words of encouragement and support.

Much aroha,

 

Hiria x

#beyourbest

 

Five simple hacks to transform your training

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You’ve tried it all huh? The crazy training regimes, the diets, the latest fad and still not getting the results you are after?
There is so much information out there on how to paddle, how to train, what to eat, how much sleep to have its all a bit overwhelming.
Time is important to us all and we don’t want to get it wrong.   So who do we believe?
This is what I learned through my own experience.
1.  Have an open mind.  Listen to those willing to share knowledge. It doesn’t mean you have to do it. Once you have gathered it all up then decide how to make it fit you.  Not the other way around.
2. Put you first.  If you are really wanting success you need to start putting yourself first. Feed yourself, train yourself, educate yourself first because then it gives you the chance to improve and help others. You can’t lead someone somewhere if you haven’t been there yourself.
3. Learn the basics and do them well.  Leave all the tricky shit. Learn the absolute fundamentals based on how your body is supposed to move.
4. Get to know yourself.  This is the only way you will get it working for you.  Dig a bit deeper below what you say you like or think into what you truly feel, not what you do because someone else does it.
5. WHATS YOUR WHY?  This is probably the most important part.  I left it for last because I’m guessing you would have stopped reading if I put it first.  Most people do physical activity or sports as a means of losing weight or making friends, or to bulk up etc.  When it comes to those hard days where you don’t want to get out of bed or drag yourself to the gym after work, these things don’t motivate you enough.  But, if you were to focus more on the kind of character you would be building and look at being the best version of yourself it opens you up to so much more potential you probably didn’t realise you had.  My goal is to be the best damn paddler I CAN BE, and that doesn’t mean I don’t want to win. I have learned that if I want to be my best that I need to do the hard work on my physical training, my eating, my sleep, my emotional wellbeing, taking care of my whole rather than one area alone.  It gives me more chances of success.  Don’t get me wrong, if that old way works for you that’s awesome, but please do try looking at it in a holistic way.  I used to train my butt off for image and weight because thats what I thought I had to do and in the process it made me a bit crazy, and uptight.  I would always feel deprived, whereas this way I feel like I have won the lottery!  My mind is at peace, and I’m making the physical gains too.
If you really want to transform your performance and are over where you are at now try something different.  Don’t give up until you can say you have really tried.
Remember if something in here has given you an ‘aha’ moment jump onto my facebook page and leave a comment.  Your contribution may just help someone else.  Thanks for all the aroha and following me on my journey.
Hiria x
#beyourbest

Confession time – Showing up as my true self isn’t always easy

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Having courage to stand out.

That feeling you get when you are so excited about something, but nervous at the same time of how people will react.

That was me about a week ago.

I was at a writers workshop (to get me in my zone for my book, thesis), when the writing prompts we were given brought gave me an epiphany ( I seem to have these a lot this year).

It suddenly dawned on me that everything I have studied over the years, taught in school, uni and through the wananga as well as my time as a public health advocate, were all pointing to one thing – sports psychology.

When I was living in Australia back in my teens I wanted to come back to NZ and study psychology, its always interested me.  But my pull to do sports was stronger and I ended up doing a Bachelor of Sport and Recreation first.  It was in my undergrad years that I got a taste of sports psych and learned a lot of simple tools around how to excel in sports and why some athletes don’t.  And I got to cover this again in my post grad papers and coaching.  However I left it at that and went on to explore other areas.

There are lessons in everything we do.

I’ve played representative sport most of my life to a high level but I always used to ‘choke’ when it really mattered.   Choking is when an athlete focuses too much on the future outcome and the negative thoughts create that emotional reaction resulting in them choking.

I soon began to realise that I did this off the field too, in life, when I had big things going, important things.

Getting back to how showing up as me isn’t always easy, well, it takes guts to step out on your own and speak your own truth, anyone knows that.  So when I had this thought about what I should be focussing on, combining my strengths as a paddler with my education it made sense, but I had that little voice in my head saying “who are you to think that” and “what makes you so special”, my ego was really doing a doozy on me.

Love and kindness

I’m lucky I am now surrounded by some very seriously strong ambitious women who see how lifting others up helps lift us all and they reminded me to kick the mind chatter and that I got this.

So I decided to hone in my skills and focus on working with paddlers.  I made a name change from Mindset Trainer for women to Paddlers!

One simple word has the power to change so much.  It really is true.  Since doing this I have had lots of activity happening, posts, likes, comments and paddlers reaching out asking for me to work with them on mindset as they have seen with their own eyes my own transformation and progression in my paddling.

What I truly know for sure is we teach through experience, and if you have the knowledge to go with that then thats a bonus isn’t it.

I’m only just beginning.

All this work I’ve done on my self development, and I still have trouble stepping up into my truth.  But thats life right, forever learning, new challenges, new growth.  It’s the evolutionary journey of transformation.

Now that I have come full circle I can see where all my past experiences fit and I am totally making it work for me.  No regrets, just gratitude for the learning I have had. When I have those days where I feel unsure about showing up in my totality I remind myself of why I am doing this, and that is because I have a story to tell and feel deep in my heart that there is someone else out there on a similar journey that needs to hear it so that they too can step up and then pay it forward to others.  In the hope that we all end up living this life as our best selves in what ever it is we choose.

Thank you as always for taking the time to read.  If you want to follow me checkout my Facebook page  or check me out on instagram 

 

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My top 6 High performance mindset hacks for everyday life

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What if you approached each day with intent and purpose just as elites do, rather than waking up into ground hog day.  And brought out your inner champion in your life or business?

If your first thoughts are,

because its hard work,

I don’t have time

Well, then sorry dear you are in the wrong place so should probably stop reading.

 

Still here?

Then sweet, you are on the right track to making your dreams come true.

Elite athletes have drive, determination, focus and ambition, much the same as anyone who is passionate about what they do.  It makes sense to apply the same logic to your life or business as they do to their sport.  I mean, why wouldn’t you right?

Here’s my tips on having a high performance mindset. Give them a bash and see what is possible for you.

  • be you first.  When you are strong in who you are and your identity opportunities open up to you.  This is where confidence comes from.
  • have a plan or goal. This gives focus and will be your anchor when you hit those tough days.
  • visualise it, athletes use mental imagery a lot to create realness around your goal.  visualise the process, not just the end goal. Visualise how you feel, what the environment is like so that you are prepared mentally and your session plays out as you wish.
  • Take action, daily.  Its the daily act of showing up that matters. it doesn’t always have to be physically, but you do have to pay some attention to your goal daily even if its resting or planning, something that keeps in the front of your mind.
  • Have balance, so learn when rest is needed.  Without sleep our body cannot grow and neither can our mind.  Its just as important as good nutrition and hydration so make sure you do this.
  • seek help or guidance when needed from a coach.  How many top athletes do you know got their on their own? Seriously?  You will always find someone has been at their side at some stage.  A coach is able to offer unbiased, real time feedback and give you that accountability boot when it gets hard and you start to slack off.
  • Attitude. The kind of attitude you approach your goals with will determine the outcome. So if you want good things to happen you need to think good things. Learn how to rewire your brain and mindset to produce positive verbal and body language and thats what you will receive.

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Go get em champion!

Hiria x

 

#imagine #believe #achieve

Three hacks to finding more time to do the things that light you up!

Hey babe,

You are either reading this because you value your time and will do anything to try and find more of it.  Or you are at a loss as to how other people are able to fit so much into their day.

Lets start with time itself. What are your first thoughts or feelings when you hear that word?

I usually get my back up and then my eyes glaze over.

You know why?

Because it seems to be all people talk about today, like it is the single most important commodity that drives humans.

I felt like I didn’t have a hope in hell of finding more time to do what I needed to and wanted to so shut off completely.

Until I stumbled across this great book I was given years ago but just never had the time to read. Well, I sat down and read it one day, from cover to cover.  It set me off on my journey to making things work better for me, by finding other people who seemed like they knew what they were doing and trying it for myself.

This is what has worked for me.

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1.  Get a goal, a clear focus or dream.  Something to use as an anchor everyday.

By having a goal it helps you to have focus and prioritise what you need to do and love to do as opposed to all the shady little great areas in between where we worry about this and that.  It is in this space that we actually waste a lot of our precious time.

2.  Shred the task list and instead work to intentions.  This one totally blew my mind. My business coach gave me this wee tool and it is the single most life changing thing that has helped me across the board. I used to get overwhelmed by task lists and had everything on there that I needed to complete, well so I thought.  The thing is, those tasks were still taking up precious head space even after writing them down. They were staring at me daily and if I didn’t get to ticking them off that day I would feel like crap and useless.  Now I focus on only 3 intentions a day, (not including housework because that is a given and autopilot to some degree, they don’t take up head space).  I list my top 3 activities that I know will get me the most gains in my day toward my goal and anything else I get done after that is a bonus.  It really stops me from fluffing about.

3.  Take action, everyday and use the 5 sec rule.  So yes we all know that taking action is pretty logical right, but what about when you just don’t want to? Thats where the 5 sec rule comes in. I had been doing this all my sporting life but didn’t realise it until I came across Mel Robins Tedtalk on the 5 sec rule.  Basically she says  you have 5 secs to make a decision because after that all of your excuses get the better of you. So nip it in the mud before it even gets a chance. My way to combat this is to remove as many of the excuses as possible, like preparation, of meals or gear I need to get going, or making sure I have all the right information. Its too easy to make an excuse if we have one little piece of the puzzle not at our finger tips right.

All these little hacks have helped me to be way more productive leaving me more energised and just happy which makes me a better person to be around for my kids and family.

Hope they help you too.

As a Mindset trainer I love helping others shift through any mental or emotional blocks that are holding you back from achieving your success, whether it be anxiety, fear, anger and in all areas of life and business.  If you feel you are ready to make some changes and needed a bit of a helping hand flick me an email and lets chat to see if we are the right fit for each other.

Remember, There is nothing bigger than myself!

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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When you just want to curl up into a ball or crawl back under the sheets – do this!

 

 

 

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You are having one of those days huh?

Something is just not going to plan,

No matter how hard you try.

It probably feels like the end of the world,

Or like you have just lost control of everything and are on the edge of falling off the cliff!

SURRENDER,

Surender to what you are feeling, don’t fight it.

The more you resist what is happening the more emotional you get.

When you choose to surrender it’s not giving up or giving in as such.

It’s acknowledging what you are feeling, whats happening right then and there.

There is a big difference.

Because from doing this brings the clarity you need to make good decisions rather than from a place of panic.

A perfect example of this for me is when I am talking with someone and they are trying to get their point across and get really agitated.

I could push back to get my point across, but that just usually ends up with voices being raised and blood starting to boil right.

And then you lose all focus and its becomes a fight to see who gets the last word.

What I do now is breathe, deeply, and it physically gives me the space to step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes.

Once I see whats really happening I am able to decide if I need to push, or accept that this person is not in a space to discuss this right now so move on without causing anymore upset.

Or another example of this for me is when I tore my achilles, four days before my biggest competition I had been training for. I could have totally thrown my toys out of the cot but I decided to surrender to what had happened and I was able to move through what needed to be done calmly.

This is really great for communicating with family members, friends or even clients!

So next time you feel like you are helpless, surrender to the moment and then make your decisions with clarity.

 

Background: I’ve come through the other side of depression to live a fuller life using the strategies and tools I share in my blogs and on my face book page.  My mission is to help others to see that depression is a gift, not an illness and once you can flick that switch in your head you realise you have the power to heal yourself.  I had tried all sorts and nothing worked, until I got the courage to look within.  Now I help women, and men who suffer from anxiety, overwhelm or depression to take back control of their lives whether it be in business or life.

The catch is I only work with people who are truly committed to change and value themselves enough to start taking action.  If this sounds like you book in for a complimentary 30 min strategy session to see how I may be able to help and if we are a good fit.

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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