Long Distance Nationals – Did it live up to the hype you built for yourself?

COMMITMENT

Training for a long term goal can be hard, I know.  Makes you wonder how our Olympians do it right?

How do you stay focussed for so long?

How do you maintain that physical, mental, emotional and nutritional discipline to reach that end point?

Well, it all comes down to how you prioritise your goal. Is it just the end goal, that outcome of making podium, or top 10, or is it about your personal growth?

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A PERSONAL JOURNEY VS OUTCOME

Some may say that the personal growth and journey stuff is teetz, and too airy fairy but the truth is this is what helps you bounce back when you don’t meet those outcomes the first time around so that you can meet them the next time you try.  It builds resilience and that is something missing in todays society, especially with our younger paddlers.

Too often paddlers will give up thinking they have failed.  They put so much hardwork in and didn’t get the outcome they were hoping for so give up.

I can relate to this because its how I spent my first years in sport, not just paddling (although I did think I was the shiz in paddling ha ha, such a newbie).

An outcome goal is not enough to keep you motivated to get out of bed so early in the morning, or commit to such a huge lifestyle change, because thats what it requires.

When you have thoughts of “oh its sweet, after I finish this I can go back to eating like I did, or not training so much”, these kind of thoughts are what will trip you up in your race because when it gets tough out there its this that creates the negative self talk, the lack of belief in yourself.

TOOLS

Keeping a training journal has helped give me the awareness I needed to deal with these thoughts quickly and easily, giving me the tools to be able to kick it during a race (most of the time).

I say most of the time because the thing is, once we are successful with a challenge, another presents itself.   Its how we grow as human beings.

I used to think, “oh sweet once I get over this hurdle I’ll be sweet,” but yeah nah, they keep coming at you in different ways.  But thats life huh, how boring would it be without a few challenges.  The downs make you appreciate the ups so much more.

FLEXIBILITY

Having a routine is needed, because you do need to be able to measure your improvement somehow.  But be flexible with it.  Just because your programme says each day of the week you have to do this, it doesn’t mean you can’t change it a little.  The weather maybe bad, or you might get sick. Beating yourself up over the programme will only give you more brain damage.

Also, try not to let yourself fall into default with your programme, you know, like groundhog day – where you wake up each day and its the same thing over and over and you end up doing it without thinking.  This is not a good space to be in.

BE INTENTIONAL

Make sure you connect in each day, with why you are doing this in the first place, and be deliberate with your actions, taking conscious action because thats where the gold is.  Its those actions that reset your brain to what works for you and not just being an imitation of someone else.  It sets the pattern for you to be able to react the best way possible for you when you hit challenges out on the water.

There’s nothing worse then coming off the water or in from a training session where you feel like you were just going through the motions.  It feels like a waste of time right? Start backing yourself and honour your time and effort by being intentional.

 

WHAT DID YOU LEARN?

Its never failure when you take away the lessons from it, and there are always lessons. If you don’t see that then you need to start digging a bit deeper, into why you even do what you are doing.

MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

Firstly, I’m pretty damn stoked with myself for what I managed to achieve and the opportunities I had to paddle with some pretty cool paddlers.  But I am going to admit that I did have a moment where I was upset with myself for not trying harder, giving it my best and letting my own self talk get to me.  In all honesty I still have that nasty dialogue go through my mind when it matters most, but, and this is a big one – I no longer let bring me down. Its important to ‘feel’ those feelings, because if you deny it starts a spiral of downward actions and you will end up at the bottom.

I could have sat and wallowed in my pity but I chose to accept it for what it was, I thought I had a shit race, felt bad for a teeny bit then decided, “this ain’t helping me at all” so I let myself move on.  Too often, especially us females, we can hold on to feelings, and let them rule our present and future. This is not healthy for our paddling at all and it starts to subconsciously show up and then we react to it, usually in the wrong way.  This can present itself by not taking up opportunities, or in the waka focussing on someones else role instead of ours, or by nit picking at somebody because they rub you up the wrong way, when in actual fact you are probably seeing your own reflection of what you need to work on yourself.

This is why mindset is so important in your paddling and sport. It’s the stuff that can either make you or break you and is the key to being your best self.

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Open womens 16km Long distance nationals 2017, Dale Thomas Bronze, Hiria Rolleston Silver, Marianna Hodges Gold.

TIPS

When I started writing this blog I thought about doing it as a personal wrap up from my own LDNs, which in a sense it is.  There are definitely elements in this that I need to pay attention to.  Its where my inspiration comes from, lived experience.  But, from conversations I had while there and the themes coming from it this approach felt better to me.

My daily routine consists of the physical aspects of training and connecting in to my surroundings, atua (gods, guardians) which fills me spiritually too, as well as my mental/emotional well-being by checking in with myself to make sure I am being intentional with what I do and making sure my thoughts and feelings are my own and not me getting caught up in someones else stuff.  I do this by journalling, I have a training journal and a business journal which helps me to work through and process my actions.  I also meditate by grabbing a moment to sit still and ask “where am I right now?”  It always brings me right back into the present and gives me clarity.

So, coming back to the title of this, I’m hoping you are still with me here ha ha, yes Long distance Nationals did live up to the hype for me, but I have a whole new bunch of things to work on now, which I’m grateful for because I know its going to help me grow evermore and is another deliberate step toward my dreams and goals.

I am grateful to everyone who came up to me and congratulated me on my medals, thats very humbling.  But even more so thankful to those people who came up to me to share their thoughts and feelings on this mahi (work) I have been doing around mindset. I have always been pretty open about what I do and share from my own experience.  I do have a Sports Science and Sport Psych background too as was a PE teacher once upon a time, so I do have the academic knowledge to back me up (it’s not all made up lol).

I share because my own journey was so difficult that I want to be able to help others.  We have so much talent out there in our communities going unseen because of our current culture around paddling from grassroots to elite.  Not blaming anyone particular person or group, but reminding us all that if we can be more open and not afraid of sharing that you will actually see it helps lift us all.

Would love to know if anything in here as given you a lightbulb moment.  Please share the aroha, share with anyone you think will benefit from this, and then drop me a comment on here or head over to my Facebook page and drop me a comment.

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INSPIRED SERIES – Nyree King

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Nyree after winning the SMW V1 500m at 2016 World Sprints in Australia and setting a new World Record time of 2.35.96

NYREE KING

Senior Master Women

Paddling 14 years.  Started in 2003 – when I was in my 40s

2004 won the Silver medal in the Master Women V1 500m in Hilo Hawaii.  This was my first international event.

Been the Senior Master Women NZ National Champ six times.

World sprint Champion in 2006 in Aotearoa and again in 2016 in Australia.

Currently world record holder in the SMW V1 500m.

EVENTS

Although I have done quite well in sprints, my passion is long distance – and have crossed the Kaiwi channel from Molokai to Oahu in Na Wahine o Ke Kai (the women’s Molokai race) a total of four times now – once in the OC1 relay – and three times in crews winning Masters 40s in 2009 and 2016.

Have done the Pailolo twice and would rate this race as THE best downwind fun.  Would love to do Pailolo in an OC1!

I try to do as many national and international W6 and W1 events as money and leave will allow.  I have amazing friends whom I love to paddle with.  At home I love to do the Bo Herbert and Bhutty races and this year was able to do the Poor Knights Crossing as well.  There are lots of races I love to do here at home – Whaingaroa, Takapuna Cup, LDNs, Kaiteriteri etc.

This year – paddling took me to portland Oregon for two races in ‘The gorge’ (the Columbia river) with over 500 SUP, OC1 and Ski on the start line.  It was epic!

BUCKET LIST (not yet done) Liberty Challenge, Womens V3 race in Tahiti, Hawaikinui womens race, Kauai challenge Relay, Dad’s Centre (we never got to finish that race), Gold Coast Cup, Maui Nui (to do again and again) – Pailolo and Na Wahine.

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2016 winners of Na Wahine o Ke Kai 40s wiht Denise Darval-Chang, Katie Stephens, Mykala Bradley, Margie Kawaiaea and Tee Felgate from Hawaii, Jill Schooler and Jeane Barrett from California.  Ngaire Pehi and myself from NZ.

MANTRA 

I suppose my mantra would be  “be in the moment – each stroke’.  When I first started paddling it used to be “Go hard, then go harder!)  but these days that mantra has more to do with my mental toughness than paddling strategy!

ROUTINE

I have quite a specific mental checklist for V1 sprints to ensure that I am totally prepared as there is not a lot of wriggle room for stuff ups – but mostly I try to stay relaxed.  I use visualisation, bungees for warm up and hydrate well in the lead up to events.  I also make sure that our family eat well and have a good meal the night before.  Usually porridge, berries, yoghurt and coffee the morning of race day – but I also take a bar to nibble if race start is delayed… there is nothing worse than feeling hungry before you get on the water.

I like to have everything ready for race day but sometimes things can get messy when the whole family is trying to use the same resources (i.e.. canoes and water systems).  Sometimes you just have to be adaptable and go with what you got!

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With Tupuria and Rose King at the 2016 World sprints Nyree after winning SMW V1 500m.  Tipu Bronze Open Men, Rose Bronze Open Women V1 finals.

BIGGEST MISTAKE

I’ve had a few but here are two.

I rigged my kit in the wrong way around and had to jump into a bumpy ocean to turn it the right way with my paddling buddy’s (Ngaire and Brennan) unable to assist because of the conditions.  Lucky I did rectify it as the ocean was huge and we had to follow the line of the Tutukaka dive boat to get back into the safety of Tutukaka harbour.  I don’t think we knew how big it was going to be!

Another mistake – not paddle fit for Bhutty’s one year – even wore two pairs of neoprenes so my butt wouldn’t get sore – fell out twice and cracked my canoe.  The thing was – I really wanted to do the race but was underprepared mentally and physically.  Lesson learned.

GRATITUDE

Nyree is one of those paddlers who I have held in awe since I began paddling. She is so strong, focussed and just smashes it out there on the race course.  One year I had to fill in for her team as a steerer at a training and was so starstruck!

I am especially pleased to share Nyree’s korero because I have always and will always look up to her.   She is just as beautiful off the water as she is on the water.  It’s pretty clear to see where Rose and Tupuria get their strength from.  Though the whole family paddles and they all do pretty damn good, including husband Dave King and sisters Riana and Hannah.

Our paddlers have given this information freely so please show some awhi (love, support) and go like their athlete pages if they have one or drop a comment on the blog thread on my Facebook post.

If anything resonates with you head over to the Facebook page and drop a comment.  It may just create some awesome discussion for us all to learn more from.

Much aroha to you for following my journey and mahi.  If you haven’t already please like my Facebook pages and even my instagram page if you are on there.  Don’t be shy, share the love.

Hiria x

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You have to back yourself 100% – a year of recovery and transformation

When you get smacked in the face by adversity, will you become resentful or use it as an opportunity to grow?

I was forced to rethink my approach to training when I tore my achilies while weight training in the gym.  I was being my usual competitive self trying to beat the guy next to me in a WOD.

I’d been conditioned to believe that by pushing harder, you get better results.

But from that moment onwards, I was forced to approach my training with a fresh perspective.  I knew that I could get stuck in a victim mindset and let this injury break me, or I could use it as an opportunity to grow.

I had this sense of knowing that my body would back me.  I chose to let go of other people’s fears and worries, and refused to listen to the outside noise that could drain or deplete me.

I chose to focus on being present in the moment, dealing only with the situation in front of me, trusting my own feelings and thoughts and working with “what is” rather than resisting the situation.

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Within days of my injury, I placed 3rd in the Long distance Nationals, Open women’s rudderless Division 2016, in huge swells with my leg in a cast, wrapped in a black rubbish bag.  That’s when I truly understood the power of mindset – and my paddling was transformed forever.

I had spent so long trying to compartmentalise myself, but I now know that what I do inside impacts everything else around me.  I finally understood that I was not alone, and that there is nothing bigger than myself because I am the universe.  When I make the time to connect within, there is no need to be afraid.

Staying connected is a daily practice, a matter of making time to be still, to recognise where I am in this moment.  Am I here? Am I in the future? Am I in the past?

Anger and frustration puts your dreams at risk.  It’s ok to be uncomfortable because that’s where we grow.  You have to back yourself 100% – to find that fire in your belly and be open to the unexpected path.

You have to create space in your head to hear your intuition.  You have to tune into your environment and stay present in the moment.  and you have to work on discovering who you really are, so you can recognise your own thoughts and fears, and let go of everyone elses.

I became conscious of my language, letting go of negativity, comparison, jealousy and over thinking.  Instead I chose to accept the situation and move forward from there, working with what is and focusing what makes me feel good.

Because I was unable to train my lower half, I had to listen to my body to discover what was right for me.  I had to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, to experiment and figure out how my body responded best.  I began recording my observations of my training, noticing how I felt and studying the patterns to learn what worked and what didn’t work for me.

By consciously studying my trainings I became more present and aware and could make changes on the water.  Over time this has become natural and I don’t have to work so hard to get into that space.  I feel I am now so in sync with who I am and my capabilities, that I know my body will back me and I can push myself further, with a sense of ease.

By choosing a different, more conscious and smarter pathway, with less striving, I felt as if I’d stepped into my flow.  My progress accelerated.  I made the Open women’s team for the world Long Distance Champs in  Tahiti.  I am now consistently in the top grouping and keeping up with people whose speed I once envied (still envy).

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Ironically this only happened since I stopped looking at what they were doing and stayed present with myself.  It’s easy to get psyched out by your competitors, but I’ve learned that I’m far more powerful when I’m focusing on doing my thing and making every stroke count.  If I put my focus on where they are in the race – even for one second – my speed drops.  When I bring my focus back my speed picks up.

And now?

I’m a totally different person at home and on the water.  What you see is what you get – everywhere.  I’m less reactive and more in tune, so I don’t fly off the handle so much.  My kids are happier and our household is more settled – and I know things would have been uglier if I hadn’t followed through for myself and pursued my dream.

I have a heightened sense of awareness and I understand that I have a choice in how I respond.  The depression that I’ve carried for 20 years has lifted.

I’m now more loving because I love myself more, and I’ve learned that we shouldn’t be so afraid to show how we feel because it makes people feel better.

Paddling feeds me as a whole person.  When I’m out there on the water, I feel at one with the paddle and the water, connected to everything.  It’s as if I’m giving back, sharing my energy with nature and the universe.  There’s a lightness about me as I glide with the water rather than against it, and a sense of calm that becomes my competitive advantage.

I work with…

People who have hit a wall in their training, are not performing on race day or who have been thrown off course by injury or personal circumstances, and don’t know how to get back on track.   If you are committed to making change contact me on my Facebook page  and lets have a casual chat.

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NB: It’s almost one year since I tore my achilles and we are 20 days out from the next Long Distance Champs.  Follow my lead up to the Nationals on Facebook or instagram.

As always, I am grateful to all those people who believed in me enough to give me a chance and supported me in my recovery, and who continue to do so. You all have a special place in my heart.

 

Hiria x

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So you think you got Glide? Lessons from the Poor Knights Crossing 2017

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Rikoriko – the start of the Poor Knights Crossing, NZ

The water changed, it felt heavy, the waka dropped and it felt like I was getting pushed around, my mind had gone into default.  Then a voice from behind yelled “she’s coming”.  It was all I needed to pick up my game.

I immediately sat up, drew in a deep breath and started surfing my waka.

I realised I had dropped into paddling for the sake of paddling.  Something that many of us do when we are at that point of exhaustion or feeling of failure.  Almost like giving in.

The more you focus on the present moment, the easier paddling becomes.  You work with the water, feel lighter, have more energy and move with your natural strengths, achieving better results.

I’m not the best paddle surfer in the world but I do know a thing or two about it and the Poor Knights gave me enough time and distance to prove my theory to myself.

Here are a couple of tips for the next time you hit the ocean swell, whether its wind chop, swell or any kind of bump, the principles are the same.

  1. Learn how to read the water. Connect to your surroundings. Being able to read ground swell direction, wind swell/chop, and how the land underneath can impact on how the water moves will be a big help to your paddling if you don’t know already. Be able to identify when a wave is going to break, or even to help you see the lines and know when to push and when to rest your canoe.
  2. Don’t be a robot.  Try and avoid getting caught up in the idea that you need to paddle the whole time.  This is what happened to me once I got passed by the lead open woman.  Lost focus and started to just paddle without thinking about what I was doing or taking notice of the conditions.
  3. Lighten up! It’s better to glide across the top of the waves, than sit in the trough and be at the mercy of the bumps.  How? Consciously sit up, draw in a deep breath and avoid digging your blade too deep.  It’s all about timing but often when we dig deep it can hold the canoe back instead of letting it glide.  Look for the lines, the opening.  It’s often better to go for the small stuff and stay on top instead of riding the big waves and using up all your energy trying to get into them.
  4. Use different gears.  Just like in a 4WD truck, you may need to adjust your setting, meaning you may need to go forward more, or longer, or cut it short. I always try to make every stroke count but adjust it to fit the wave or bump and where my canoe sits on it.  Depending on where the canoe is I will either reach more up front and tap for a couple of strokes, or come back to my side and push the canoe down the face of the wave. There is a balance and need to be able to anticipate the flow of the water,  this is where rudderless paddling comes in handy!
  5. Awareness is key.  There will be moments when you lose focus, as I did but as long as you are aware of it, you can quickly adjust yourself.  I had a feeling I was out of my zone and was lucky I had someone to snap me back in.  I had no one around me for ages and that can be a problem, not knowing where you are in a race.  Unless you go into it with a race strategy (which I didn’t, except to survive).  Perhaps if I had things would have been different.  But I choose not to do the what if’s.  What’s done is done and now I know better for next time.  So it’s all on for 2018!

At the end of the day it’s really about having fun.  I was out there yelling and screaming to myself because I was just enjoying each ride (well most of the time).

Paddling feeds me as a whole person.  When I’m out there on the water, I feel at one with the paddle and the water, connected to everything.  It’s as if I’m giving back, sharing my energy with nature and the universe.  There’s a lightness about me as I glide with the water rather than against it, and a serene sense of calm that becomes my competitive advantage.

If you are serious about wanting to improve your paddling performance and don’t know where to start or have tried a bunch of stuff and still not getting results, maybe you need to dig a little deeper and find out whats really holding you back.

I am about to open the doors to my new online outrigger coaching programme and would love to have you join me.  Find me on Facebook and PM me or send an email to outrigger programme.

A big mihi to everyone who follows me and has had the courage to come up and introduce themselves at events or reach out online.  It’s pretty cool meeting people from overseas, it’s humbling actually.  I really do value your time and words of encouragement and support.

Much aroha,

 

Hiria x

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Five simple hacks to transform your training

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You’ve tried it all huh? The crazy training regimes, the diets, the latest fad and still not getting the results you are after?
There is so much information out there on how to paddle, how to train, what to eat, how much sleep to have its all a bit overwhelming.
Time is important to us all and we don’t want to get it wrong.   So who do we believe?
This is what I learned through my own experience.
1.  Have an open mind.  Listen to those willing to share knowledge. It doesn’t mean you have to do it. Once you have gathered it all up then decide how to make it fit you.  Not the other way around.
2. Put you first.  If you are really wanting success you need to start putting yourself first. Feed yourself, train yourself, educate yourself first because then it gives you the chance to improve and help others. You can’t lead someone somewhere if you haven’t been there yourself.
3. Learn the basics and do them well.  Leave all the tricky shit. Learn the absolute fundamentals based on how your body is supposed to move.
4. Get to know yourself.  This is the only way you will get it working for you.  Dig a bit deeper below what you say you like or think into what you truly feel, not what you do because someone else does it.
5. WHATS YOUR WHY?  This is probably the most important part.  I left it for last because I’m guessing you would have stopped reading if I put it first.  Most people do physical activity or sports as a means of losing weight or making friends, or to bulk up etc.  When it comes to those hard days where you don’t want to get out of bed or drag yourself to the gym after work, these things don’t motivate you enough.  But, if you were to focus more on the kind of character you would be building and look at being the best version of yourself it opens you up to so much more potential you probably didn’t realise you had.  My goal is to be the best damn paddler I CAN BE, and that doesn’t mean I don’t want to win. I have learned that if I want to be my best that I need to do the hard work on my physical training, my eating, my sleep, my emotional wellbeing, taking care of my whole rather than one area alone.  It gives me more chances of success.  Don’t get me wrong, if that old way works for you that’s awesome, but please do try looking at it in a holistic way.  I used to train my butt off for image and weight because thats what I thought I had to do and in the process it made me a bit crazy, and uptight.  I would always feel deprived, whereas this way I feel like I have won the lottery!  My mind is at peace, and I’m making the physical gains too.
If you really want to transform your performance and are over where you are at now try something different.  Don’t give up until you can say you have really tried.
Remember if something in here has given you an ‘aha’ moment jump onto my facebook page and leave a comment.  Your contribution may just help someone else.  Thanks for all the aroha and following me on my journey.
Hiria x
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Three hacks to finding more time to do the things that light you up!

Hey babe,

You are either reading this because you value your time and will do anything to try and find more of it.  Or you are at a loss as to how other people are able to fit so much into their day.

Lets start with time itself. What are your first thoughts or feelings when you hear that word?

I usually get my back up and then my eyes glaze over.

You know why?

Because it seems to be all people talk about today, like it is the single most important commodity that drives humans.

I felt like I didn’t have a hope in hell of finding more time to do what I needed to and wanted to so shut off completely.

Until I stumbled across this great book I was given years ago but just never had the time to read. Well, I sat down and read it one day, from cover to cover.  It set me off on my journey to making things work better for me, by finding other people who seemed like they knew what they were doing and trying it for myself.

This is what has worked for me.

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1.  Get a goal, a clear focus or dream.  Something to use as an anchor everyday.

By having a goal it helps you to have focus and prioritise what you need to do and love to do as opposed to all the shady little great areas in between where we worry about this and that.  It is in this space that we actually waste a lot of our precious time.

2.  Shred the task list and instead work to intentions.  This one totally blew my mind. My business coach gave me this wee tool and it is the single most life changing thing that has helped me across the board. I used to get overwhelmed by task lists and had everything on there that I needed to complete, well so I thought.  The thing is, those tasks were still taking up precious head space even after writing them down. They were staring at me daily and if I didn’t get to ticking them off that day I would feel like crap and useless.  Now I focus on only 3 intentions a day, (not including housework because that is a given and autopilot to some degree, they don’t take up head space).  I list my top 3 activities that I know will get me the most gains in my day toward my goal and anything else I get done after that is a bonus.  It really stops me from fluffing about.

3.  Take action, everyday and use the 5 sec rule.  So yes we all know that taking action is pretty logical right, but what about when you just don’t want to? Thats where the 5 sec rule comes in. I had been doing this all my sporting life but didn’t realise it until I came across Mel Robins Tedtalk on the 5 sec rule.  Basically she says  you have 5 secs to make a decision because after that all of your excuses get the better of you. So nip it in the mud before it even gets a chance. My way to combat this is to remove as many of the excuses as possible, like preparation, of meals or gear I need to get going, or making sure I have all the right information. Its too easy to make an excuse if we have one little piece of the puzzle not at our finger tips right.

All these little hacks have helped me to be way more productive leaving me more energised and just happy which makes me a better person to be around for my kids and family.

Hope they help you too.

As a Mindset trainer I love helping others shift through any mental or emotional blocks that are holding you back from achieving your success, whether it be anxiety, fear, anger and in all areas of life and business.  If you feel you are ready to make some changes and needed a bit of a helping hand flick me an email and lets chat to see if we are the right fit for each other.

Remember, There is nothing bigger than myself!

Hiria x

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When you just want to curl up into a ball or crawl back under the sheets – do this!

 

 

 

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You are having one of those days huh?

Something is just not going to plan,

No matter how hard you try.

It probably feels like the end of the world,

Or like you have just lost control of everything and are on the edge of falling off the cliff!

SURRENDER,

Surender to what you are feeling, don’t fight it.

The more you resist what is happening the more emotional you get.

When you choose to surrender it’s not giving up or giving in as such.

It’s acknowledging what you are feeling, whats happening right then and there.

There is a big difference.

Because from doing this brings the clarity you need to make good decisions rather than from a place of panic.

A perfect example of this for me is when I am talking with someone and they are trying to get their point across and get really agitated.

I could push back to get my point across, but that just usually ends up with voices being raised and blood starting to boil right.

And then you lose all focus and its becomes a fight to see who gets the last word.

What I do now is breathe, deeply, and it physically gives me the space to step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes.

Once I see whats really happening I am able to decide if I need to push, or accept that this person is not in a space to discuss this right now so move on without causing anymore upset.

Or another example of this for me is when I tore my achilles, four days before my biggest competition I had been training for. I could have totally thrown my toys out of the cot but I decided to surrender to what had happened and I was able to move through what needed to be done calmly.

This is really great for communicating with family members, friends or even clients!

So next time you feel like you are helpless, surrender to the moment and then make your decisions with clarity.

 

Background: I’ve come through the other side of depression to live a fuller life using the strategies and tools I share in my blogs and on my face book page.  My mission is to help others to see that depression is a gift, not an illness and once you can flick that switch in your head you realise you have the power to heal yourself.  I had tried all sorts and nothing worked, until I got the courage to look within.  Now I help women, and men who suffer from anxiety, overwhelm or depression to take back control of their lives whether it be in business or life.

The catch is I only work with people who are truly committed to change and value themselves enough to start taking action.  If this sounds like you book in for a complimentary 30 min strategy session to see how I may be able to help and if we are a good fit.

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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The secret to making shit work for you!

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Psst! I have stumbled onto something pretty damn amazing.

EVERYONE HAS THE POWER TO MANIFEST!

Seriously.

It’s just most people don’t know what to manifest

Or they are so caught up in their daily grind all they manifest is their woes.

Why?

Because where you focus your intention, energy flows. It’s as simple as that.

Most people these days are like “what are you doing that rubbish for?”, as if manifesting was some woo woo, crazy talk kind of thing.

The thing is I believe the word manifest has had a bad rap, possibly because its been abused and misused over the years and people have tried and failed not really understanding whats involved or needed to make it happen.  It’s not a secret pill that will give you a quick fix, unless you have your shit sorted out.

To manifest simply means to ‘demonstrate’ or as an adjective its means ‘obvious, blatant’.

When you unpack it like that it doesn’t seem so scary and out of touch right.

Now, the key to making shit happen for yourself is these three things.

  1. HAVE A DREAM.  Work out what it is you want.  Most people can’t make shit happen because they don’t know what they want. Or worse, they don’t think they are deserving of anything more.
  2. GET SOME SKILLS.  Work out what skills you need to attain, or acquire your goal, dream.  If its weight loss, then perhaps you need to research healthy eating, or if you are wanting to start your own business you would be best to research start ups.
  3. TAKE ACTION.  This is where most people fall over.  They say it, talk about to all their friends and family but don’t actually take action.  So you need to back it up.

Now from here to really manifest the shit out of this you need to journal your heart out.  Write your vision, using all of your senses, what does it look like, smell like, sound like, feel like? Get as much detail as possible into it so you can really feel like you are there already.

Journal as if it has happened already.  And journal how it would make you feel.  If this dream of yours come to fruition, what would that mean for you? For your family?   What wold you do? What can you do now to start the process?  Can you see where I am heading? Can you feel that? Those vibes it’s creating?

It can be real and you can make it happen if you believe it.  Now the final disclosure, you can manifest whatever you want with good intention. Universal law revolves around good intention so if you come from a space of positivity and light it will have your back.

Now, if you have done all theses steps and its still not showing up you obviously have some limiting beliefs holding you back.  It can be challenging delving into what these may be and people usually won’t because they are afraid of what they will uncover. Hence the reason why most people manifest the daily grind.

But, if you know in your gut that you are playing small and really want to achieve those dreams you were too scared to pursue, and can commit to taking the action required then there is hope.

If you need help shredding those old beliefs, and habits I have just the thing to help you. I am starting my Rise and Shine 8 week course up again on the 16th of May.  It is a course that will help you shift from where you are right now away from the anxiety and overwhelm into a place of  FREEDOM, confident and taking action!

And because I am buzzing from the power of my manifesting, for the next 5 people who sign up on the Rise and shine course I will throw in a FREE 90min Planning session (value of $147) with me to help you identify those key points above and get you on track.

Up for the challenge?  Book your spot now and email me.

Lets do this!

 

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

 

 

 

Stuck in a rut? Maybe you are standing in your own way?

For years I would look at other people who looked like they had it all with envy.  I wanted to feel like how they looked, happy, content, excited to greet each day.

My reality was so far removed from that though.

On the outside it all looked pretty awesome.  I even had a friend say,  “yeah she has a cute house, cute dog, cute husband and cute kids, she’s got it all”.

It definitely did not feel like that on the inside.

At home, all I could see was days on end of clouds, or like a really humid day when you see that haze across the horizon, there was no clarity or feeling, just a numbness and an ever deepening hole of sadness.  This might sound weird but I liken it to a horse wearing blinkers, your view narrows, and narrows and so does your hearing.   Almost to the point where you totally distort what is being said.

I don’t know at what point in my life it started for sure, but what I do know is it got worse and worse.  I finally came to a point where I had to do something because deep down I just felt there was more.  Even though I had that negative mind chatter telling me otherwise I couldn’t help but recognise that feeling in the pit of my stomach that something wasn’t right.

I became aware of the two voices in my head and the power of them.  I watched them both and began to learn what they fed off.   It came to a point where I needed to make a decision, because I realised I had a choice and I chose to step out of that space.

It finally dawned on me that I was holding myself back with all the negative talk about being worthy enough, guilt from years of mood swings and lashing out, poor decisions I had made in the past playing over and over in my head and keeping me there.  My rut was caused by me, no one else.  I had to stop blaming everyone else for my situation.  It’s true when they say what you focus on is what you create. I was focussed on drama form my past and kept creating it, over and over.  Initially that made me angry, but then I chose to move forward and it soon became my power to thrive, not to heal but to thrive.

In my journey I had to let go of some friends and family. I had to surround myself with truly authentic people who focus on love and positivity.   Don’t worry, not hippies or anything, just straight up honest down to earth normal people. You see, to be in touch with your inner self you don’t have to be anything but yourself.  It was the mirroring of others that got me in this situation to start with.  Initially I thought some of these friends had ditched me but I realised it was me who was pushing them away because of the stories I was telling myself.

I now navigate my way through life from my whole wellbeing, making sure everything I do impacts on my physical, spiritual, mental/emotional, and social connectedness in some way.  When I operate from this space my life is so much easier, decisions are easy to make and I don’t have the drama around me that I used to because I am clear on where I am, not just where I am headed but right here right now.

What I learned really quickly was spending too much time in the past (most of us do) or trying hard to control the future, we end up in that vicious cycle of drama.  The only thing you can change is right now right here and there very rarely is any problems right now in this moment is there.  Can you see the power in knowing this?  It is key in realising we create the drama ourselves.  And yes, we get put into some situations that are out of our control, but you still get to choose how you react to it.  This is what the fight or flight mechanism was created for, to give yourself the space to make the best decision for your survival and to do that you need to be present.

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Coming off my end of wave in the Hyundai Pro Longboard Tour

 

It takes me back to a day when I was out surfing some really big swell that had come through on the back of a storm.   I got a few nice waves and then my last one (its always the last one), I got smashed.  I tumbled and pushed down by this wave and totally lost my orientation. I didn’t know which way was up and it was dark.   I panicked for a second and went to swim, took three strokes and still did not surface. That’s when it happened, I gave in, surrendered to what was happening.  I was resisting what was happening and my panic got in the way of me being able to make a good decision. As soon as I relaxed, my body floated up to the surface and there I was. I grabbed my board and caught the next whitewash back into the beach.

That is a valuable lesson I will forever hold onto because it taught me the importance of being here right now.  My mind was in a space of panic because all I could think about was what was going to happen to me rather than what was happening.  Can you see the difference? What was going to happen hadn’t played out and was taking all of my focus so as soon as I surrendered to what ‘is’ it gave me the space to make that decisions to relax.

I refuse to accept that depression is an illness. That is what kept me in that space for so long.   And if you were to diagnose me I would say it would have been pretty severe, especially with all the suicide attempts.  What I know now for sure is that this experience has been a gift, an opportunity for me to reset because I had come away from my centre, and now I am whole again and stronger than ever.

I am on a mission to change how people look at depression. It’s not an illness that can be easily medicated, the evidence is right in front of us all in the fact there is none.  Please share with anyone you think needs to hear this.

To do this I have set up my business as a mindset trainer for women, although men follow my page too. This is what gets me excited to get out of bed in the mornings and do what I do.   If you haven’t already please go and LIKE my Facebook page.

If you need some help getting out of your rut flick me an email or PM me on my Facebook page.  I offer a complimentary strategy sessions to help you gain some clarity and to see if we are the right fit for each other.  Because I only work with women who are 100% committed to taking back control of their own lives.

 

Hiria x

Strengthening my connection to me….

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From about the age of 3yrs old I have memories of how my mother used rongoa Maori (maori medicine) in everyday life.
She used to keep bottles of sea water in the wardrobe which would come out for important karakia (incantation).
And I also remember going on adventures into the bush with my dad to retrieve the various plants my mum requested for healing.

When I was about 7 or 8yrs old I vividly remember going up into the bush on my own and collecting the leaves of various native plants, taping them inside my book and labelling them with their name, where I found them and what they were used for.

The ocean played a huge part in our lives too from providing us kai but also healing.
When I look back now to those moments in time I realize they were all lessons.
It’s little wonder I was so attracted to these essential oils at a time in my life that I really needed them.
I’ve always acknowledged our connection to nature because I have witnessed it from a child and seen the amazing things that can happen.
But like most as we grow older and get caught up in that daily grind and hustle and move away to “better ourselves” we slowly close our senses off to that connection.

It’s as though right here tonight I have had an epiphany and can feel the huge responsibility as a Maori to ensure the integrity of rongoa by using ‘correct tikanga’ when working with wairua (spirit) and connecting to the plant, which is the key to potentising its effectiveness.

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I have been using the essential oils for the past 6 months now and the impact it has had on my own healing (torn Achilles) and whanau health has been huge.  I also use them for preparation with my training and getting me in the zone and focused.
I love how it has given me the ability to take responsibility and control over the little things I would usually run off to the doctor for.
I spent years attaining my degree and post grad studying about the human body and what makes it tick inside and out and right now I feel I have finally connected the dots.

What I know now for sure is that it’s not my identity I lost, it was my connection to it.  Pressures of society on how to be made me feel like I had to shut it out.
I am going to share what tools I have used and continue to use in my daily self care/wellness including karakia, exercise, good food, essential oils, and taonga because they all contribute to improving and maintaining my hauora (well-being).
In the meantime if you want to know more about essential oils or other strategies I have used to take back control of my wellness take up my 30min complimentary strategy offer where we can see if we are a good fit and if I have the solution for you.

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As always, much appreciation for following my journey,

 

Hiria x