Three hacks to finding more time to do the things that light you up!

Hey babe,

You are either reading this because you value your time and will do anything to try and find more of it.  Or you are at a loss as to how other people are able to fit so much into their day.

Lets start with time itself. What are your first thoughts or feelings when you hear that word?

I usually get my back up and then my eyes glaze over.

You know why?

Because it seems to be all people talk about today, like it is the single most important commodity that drives humans.

I felt like I didn’t have a hope in hell of finding more time to do what I needed to and wanted to so shut off completely.

Until I stumbled across this great book I was given years ago but just never had the time to read. Well, I sat down and read it one day, from cover to cover.  It set me off on my journey to making things work better for me, by finding other people who seemed like they knew what they were doing and trying it for myself.

This is what has worked for me.

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1.  Get a goal, a clear focus or dream.  Something to use as an anchor everyday.

By having a goal it helps you to have focus and prioritise what you need to do and love to do as opposed to all the shady little great areas in between where we worry about this and that.  It is in this space that we actually waste a lot of our precious time.

2.  Shred the task list and instead work to intentions.  This one totally blew my mind. My business coach gave me this wee tool and it is the single most life changing thing that has helped me across the board. I used to get overwhelmed by task lists and had everything on there that I needed to complete, well so I thought.  The thing is, those tasks were still taking up precious head space even after writing them down. They were staring at me daily and if I didn’t get to ticking them off that day I would feel like crap and useless.  Now I focus on only 3 intentions a day, (not including housework because that is a given and autopilot to some degree, they don’t take up head space).  I list my top 3 activities that I know will get me the most gains in my day toward my goal and anything else I get done after that is a bonus.  It really stops me from fluffing about.

3.  Take action, everyday and use the 5 sec rule.  So yes we all know that taking action is pretty logical right, but what about when you just don’t want to? Thats where the 5 sec rule comes in. I had been doing this all my sporting life but didn’t realise it until I came across Mel Robins Tedtalk on the 5 sec rule.  Basically she says  you have 5 secs to make a decision because after that all of your excuses get the better of you. So nip it in the mud before it even gets a chance. My way to combat this is to remove as many of the excuses as possible, like preparation, of meals or gear I need to get going, or making sure I have all the right information. Its too easy to make an excuse if we have one little piece of the puzzle not at our finger tips right.

All these little hacks have helped me to be way more productive leaving me more energised and just happy which makes me a better person to be around for my kids and family.

Hope they help you too.

As a Mindset trainer I love helping others shift through any mental or emotional blocks that are holding you back from achieving your success, whether it be anxiety, fear, anger and in all areas of life and business.  If you feel you are ready to make some changes and needed a bit of a helping hand flick me an email and lets chat to see if we are the right fit for each other.

Remember, There is nothing bigger than myself!

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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Dark holes, shadows and butterflies… My year in review.

I thought I would jump on the band wagon and do a review of my year and wow!

Flicking through all the pics in my Facebook feed has been amazing.

It’s an instant measure of the tides of life for sure and how I have handled them.

Right now in this moment I am so grateful for all of them.  Because if I hadn’t of had those trials I would not be where I am today.

It’s funny, you hear people who are successful talk about that often but you just don’t get it till it happens to you.

And this is the biggest lesson I have learned to date.  Is to stop trying to please EVERYONE, and focus on my tribe, my collective of awesomeness.

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A year ago I was in such a dark place, one where I struggle to see the light. And couldn’t be bothered to see it.  I felt so stretched, so thin that i had no more to give and I would lie in bed, till later arvo.

I knew it was bad when I was in that space.  Emotionless, I felt invisible.

I couldn’t eat, didn’t want to eat. I struggled to feel anything for my kids, my husband, my friends and totally shut the outdoors out.

There wasn’t much thought, just darkness. A heavy haze, over my heart and fogginess in my mind.

I would flip out at the smallest things. Still trying to maintain my lifestyle outside of home, and then retreat indoors back to my hole.

I would feel guilt, for my babies because of how I would react, or too tired to play and not be interested in anything.  And then guilt for my husband for putting up with me.

I would often wish I would go to sleep and not wake in the morning, feeling it would be better for everyone.  And there had been moments where I acted on that too.

Thankfully, with the love of my husband and kids I was able to pull through.

But not before I pulled myself out of the hole. I always felt deep down inside, and heard a voice actually (because there are two voices) that told me only I could do this.  Not to rely on anyone else. It had to be me. It’s the only way.

I was at the point where I was sos tired of being tired, feeling crazy and feeling like there was so much more that I made the CHOICE.

I woke up, and started to work on my strengths.  I got out all the evidence i had around me of things that helped me feel better and worked on them.

I started paying attention to me (because for years I had not been). I started to take care of myself better, my total well-being.

I enlisted the help of a business coach, an intuitive one and that helped me personally as well.  Because lets face it, being in business is just the best type of personal development course there is.

I started to surround self with positive people, authentic people.

And I started to journal, not like when in school with the Dear Diary styles but focussed, business writing.  By golly gosh has it helped.

Everything I write and post is my truth. I write it for me.  But i have come to know that if i need it, then others probably do too.

Within only a few months I started to notice the difference and felt like I had never felt.  so much happiness and I got my passion back for mu business and life.

Then it happened, I tore my achilies tendon four days out from one of the biggest paddle events I had been training for and was in the running for doing really well at.

I can hear you now, thinking, OMG you poor thing.  And that’s exactly how the majority reacted.  Except for one close friend of mine, and my husband.

They stuck by me, and believed in me.  Because they know what I am capable of, and stubborn.

I decided to paddle, and damn did it freak some people out! The weather was crazy with a 2 metre swell running.  I tell you, I had never felt so strong and focused in my life.  I got out there and just paddled as best I could, passing paddlers, and even guys whose eyes looked as big as saucers from the swell running.

I managed to pull in a third place and made the podium with a Bronze medal!

Since then my life has really taken off!

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I have been working on my recovery and my injury gave me the space to work on some much-needed personal baggage. I have since been shredding all that does not serve me including people, places and things.  It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

And this feeling of joy, is surreal.  In the past it would wear off but this time around it jut keeps growing.

I have learned to love myself again and make sure that I put myself at the centre.  All activities i do must support my whole wellbeing, because lets face it. at the end of the day we all just want freedom and true freedom is total-wellbing.

Since I started all the strategies I have used to get back on track i haven’t once felt like I did, like the hole was still there…

As I began to come out of the darkness I began to dream vivid dreams of sea life. I am a water person and have always enjoyed surfing as my ‘escape’ or meditation. I also started to notice a lot of butterflies around the place, and even inside the house.

It’s quite fitting considering the transformation they go through, and I really feel the like I have been through.

I see the world with so much more colour now and its unreal! I have accepted my purpose in life and feel I have learned the keys to life, now its just a matter of practicing them daily so that I am more conscious more often.

I have achieved some really huge milestones from my vision board and one of them is the start of my own personal business as a mindset Trainer.  It really warms me up to speak my truth and know that it helps other women who are ready to step up and shine bright too. I know that by each of us doing so it adds more light and love to the world and we could definitely do with more of that!

Initially I started working under the banner of Soulwater, which began as my alter ego if you followed me in earlier blogs you will know. But it didn’t quite fit with me because Soulwater was always about my journey, through depression. To honour my own journey I have decided that all future retreats I run I will put a portion of the fee towards a charity for depression and suicide. I struggled with the system and slipped through the cracks but also felt like people tried to box me in, and that is the last thing you should be trying to do with someone who suffered from depression.

I am always learning, and growing, and totally loving it!

I wish for every woman, every man out there who has been to that place to not give up. To keep on. Because you are needed in this world.  You might not know what it is that you have to contribute yet, but it will come.

Keep dreaming, keep believing  and surrender to your awesome

Hiria x

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Laptops, meetings, and breastfeeding – It’s what you make it mama!

img_5900Yes you read that right, and damn straight!

I’ve been in business for seven years now and one year in my hubby and I got pregnant with our first little one.  Six years on and now we have three.  They are now aged six, four and one years.  I also have a twenty year old boy is off at university.
Being a working mama is hard.  But no one makes it harder for us then ourselves. Straight up truth right there.
You have a choice as to how you live your life, or live in the conditions of your life.
I left my day job not long after my baby was born and I have had a sharp learning curve with balancing work and my kids.
This word balance has been the bain of my motherhood. We all know what it means but it has become this crazy ideal that doesn’t seem to be achievable.
As always, I reframe things to fit me and have done with balance. But before I go into how I make it work for me I will share a little experience I had that has stuck with me.
I remember coming in from a surf with my hubby, we had our little one and I think I was pregnant.  This guy was leisurely packing up his gear after a surf too and made the comment that having kids was the best thing in life and that if you don’t take the time to enjoy that, then you shouldn’t have kids.
That really messed with my head and it has off and on for years.
I really believed what he said and felt hurt because I was running this business, full-time and trying to raise a baby. So much guilt of being a bad mama.
But, there was something inside me that said that couldn’t be true.  I knew deep down inside that when you become a mama you don’t give up who you are, and that’s essentially what a lot of mama do.  I’ve always been a rule breaker so I was determined to make it work.
I had my latest bub a year ago now and I have kept her home longer.  I put all  the others in care from 6 months old.
Gasp, yes I did.
I did what I had to do at the time.
I have been reflecting on what that guy said to me all those years ago and really working at this work life balance.
How did I do it?
  • Prioritise
  • change language
  • Be present
I had to prioritise my activities and really focus on what would work the best for me and give the best return.
I had to change my language around being busy and set positive affirmations in place to ensure my subconscious was working for me and not against me.
And finally I really had to work on being present, in the moment.  I know everyone is talking about being present these days but you know why? Because it bloody works and is truth!
I took lessons from my training dairy and how I approach my training and mirrored it in my work and family life.  Seems like a no brainer to me now but it was a like a huge epiphany to me at the time!
We generally don’t see these signs until we slow down a bit and take notice.
So I urge you mama to keep on keeping on, but do it your way. You know its your way when you feel enlightened and valued.  But as soon as you begin to feel let down or betrayed you know you have come out of alignment.
If you want to know more about how I reframe it to work for me please get in touch. I would love to share my experience with you. You can  also grab a copy of my  How to be more Kick-assy for FREE.  Flick me an email on soulwaternz@gmail.com
I believe that the energy we put out there really impacts on the world so please if you found this useful pass it on.
As always thanks for tuning in,
Hiria x
#workingmama #balance

3 Simple ways to keep your sanity through Christmas – from a mama that knows

We are still in November and all the christmas decorations and trees are already up in the malls! What the heck?
And, did you know that NZ Post has changed their delivery days so that means you need to be even more organised this Christmas to make sure your Christmas cards make it to where they need to go in time.
Ok, I’m just rubbing it in now.
Panic stations!
If you are anything like me christmas is one of the most stressful times of year. Deciding where to go, who’ turn is it to host christmas, presents to buy, food to cook, baking to do, trailers to load, oh my gosh the checklist is endless.  And thats just the christmas part.  What about work? and finalising things before the end of the year for shut down, oh and thats if you do shutdown.
So, feeling overwhelmed?
We get overwhelmed when we think about all the things that we need to do, in the future.
I can hear you now,
I need to do this,
I need to do that,
I need to take the cat to the cattery,
I need to put the rubbish out,
I need to wash the car,
I need to buy a turkey?
All these things take up space in our heads and if we are not careful and lead us into a major spin out.
No one wants to spend christmas feeling crazy.
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So I have put together a couple of steps to help you through your christmas.
Step 1.  Get it out of your head.  Grab a journal or your diary and write out all the things you need to do.  Everything that is taking up space in your head.  This little act in itself can relieve loads of pressure, physically too. It’s like a weight of  your shoulders.
Step 2.  Prioritise with your heart. Now I used to hate doing this sort of thing because when I wrote out all my lists it would overwhelm me even more.  But that was till I learned how to prioritise. So now i prioritise with my heart.  Scan the list and pull out what tugs at your heart strings the most. Most of the time our to do list is made of little things that don’t really matter.  What matters is what will make you feel better and happier. So get those heart strings going.
Step 3.  Choose 3 things from this list to do each day leading up to Christmas. Look for the little things that give have big consequences. It’s all about taking consistent action daily.
Start doing these things and you will end the year with so much more energy and stay sane because you have cleared your headspace and set a direct path of what you need to do.  It really is simple stuff.  No magic formulas.
I have also put together this fabulous one day retreat with the beautiful Karoline from Intuitive Wellness, for woman like you who are keen to have the best christmasy christmas this year and really be present.
It’s an opportunity to put yourself first, get moving, eat some great food, practice some mindfulness and then get into the business end where we help you to prioritise your schedule for the end of the year so you can spend it living it up.
If this sounds like you please go and check out the event page or PM or email soulwaternz@gmail.com
Go book your ticket now beautiful and join us x
Hiria x
#christmas #energy #sanity #overwhelm

Who’s rules are you living by?

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I am woman.

I am mama.

I am wife.

I am sister.

I am daughter.

I am friend.

I am business owner.

I am role model.

I am athlete.

I am teacher.

I am Maori.

I am pakeha.

I am me.

This is my reality. And gosh when I line it up like that and think about all the different rules that come with wearing those hats, damn, I’m exhausted.

And where the hell did all these rules even come from?

Who the hell cares!  I don’t want to waste any more precious time on that. It doesn’t serve me right now.

All I know is that for far too long I lived wearing these different hats with different rules and it was exhausting. I felt like I was working my butt off to please and not making any ground.

I know where I come from and that is enough.  What matters is right now.  Somewhere along the line we have become so caught up on the rules that we have forgotten whats really important.  And that is who we are in all of this.

Growing up in a rural area, predominantly Maori was choice! I was comfortable to a degree in my own skin. All I had to worry about was being tall and skinny (that’s a whole other korero).  After my mum passed and we moved back to Wanganui  I went to a Girls college.  It was then I experienced rasicsm for the first time.  It really shaped how I stepped up as a Maori and person from here on in.

All through university and working as a school teacher and then as an advocate in public health I found I would make allowances for people who were not knowledgeable of my culture.  I would watch how I acted and who I acted around for fear of coming across as too Maori.  Because every time I got caught up in a heated debate the race card would be pulled by the non Maori participant as an excuse for me standing up for myself.  It left me feeling helpless and boxed in.

There is a bright side! And I believe this has actually helped me to be the creative person I am today.

In business I have had people interview me about how I do business as a Maori. What does Maori business look like?  And who decides that.  I also had an instance where I was talking with a local government group where they wanted to work with Maori business but didn’t know where to start.  I asked them, what is a Maori business?

They said well, umm. I don’t actually know. And I quickly stepped in to say, you are talking to one right now.

You see Maori business for me isn’t about the image, having a hardcore Maori looking logo or even a Maori name. That’s what they thought.

I told them that for me, a Maori business is driven by it’s guiding principles. A set of shared principles that Maori live by and incorporate into business.  It is at the essence of how we operate as an individual and as a collective.

And it doesn’t stop there for me. It’s about taking all the rules, and working them to fit me and what I do.  So it serves me, today!  I am able to take the best of both cultures and thats why I am able to be as creative as I am.

As a mama, who’s rules do I live by there? Which side of me? I always struggled with knowing which foot to step forward with first.  And I know many Maori can relate to this.  Literally looking in the mirror and asking myself, am I Maori today? Or pakeha.  How do I solve this problem?  With a Maori lens, or a pakeha lens.  This really used to get me down and I struggled with it for years. I’ve always sat on the fence because there was the pro Maori group that were all staunch and angry and then there was the I’m brown group but I’m not Maori who would do all that they could to escape being Maori.  How will this impact on my kids? Do I send them to kohanga reo because they are Maori? Or do I send them to mainstream kindy so that I know they will get a better start in life. You see the conflict?   I struggled to operate with both sets of rules, separately. I let myself be boxed in.

 

As an athlete I could be whatever I wanted.  I made the rules. And I made rules that worked for me because it is such an individual thing.  I was in control of what my mind and body does, how it moves.  So why the hell couldn’t I take the strategies and rules in my training to fit other areas of my life?

Exactly!!!

Photos: Top left corner 9 1/5 months pregnant. Bottom left corner Winning Bronze Medal at Long Distance Nationals 4 days after tearing my achilies tendon. Right, 4 months pregnant competing in the NZ SUP Surfing Nationals and coming in second in my heat.

It was a case of taking in all those rules, sorting out which ones I thought actually served me and biffing the rest.  My focus has always been on a holistic approach to living and that has been ingrained in me from my culture. But even as Maori we still box ourselves in.  I’m on a mission to be true to myself. And that means across my whole life. A holistic approach to living. Eating good food, moving, being connected with self, nature, and being  conscious or mindful.  Only then will I truly be successful. This quote sums it up nicely for me.

“You can’t share your wisdom unless you come from a place of truth”

I came up with this quote while planning an exciting conference with a couple of other awesome ladies. Basically it means that you cannot stand true in your convictions unless you act as who you are, your inner self, being.

Now I’m not saying throw out all the rules. What I am saying is you need to find what works for you, don’t box yourself in and use rules as an excuse to not try.  Because many of the rules we have today are outdated but we still live by them.  Find what works while respecting your environment, work, family, business, healing.

As always thanks for tuning in,

Hiria x

#imagine #believe #achieve

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Up-level already would you!

Last night I had the opportunity to share my journey with a room full of other beautiful woman. I was given 3 minutes to speak! How the hell do you get what you need to say across in 3 minutes?   My brother made a comment that I would only just get through my pepeha and time would be up, egg lol. anyone who knows a little about Maori culture would understand that.  Now is not the time to explain what pepeha is, thats for another blog, and an important one, but not now.

I decided not to write a speech.  Instead, I waited till I got to the stage, looked at everyone, connected and then spoke.

What came out was raw, honest, straight to the point. And this was confirmed to me by the feedback I was given afterward, which I am thankful for.

My plan was to actually just go there and listen, really listen to everyone in the room.  And not on a face value level.  On a much deeper soul level.  So I left my phone in my bag.  No socila media updates in between talks or photos.  This I believe we need to do more of.  Listen with our whole being. You can’t do this while tutuing (mucking around) on your phone!  That’s another blog post right there too!

Back to what I was saying…

I had an exhibit, and at my table I was asking women to share with me one quote or mantra that they use on the daily to get themselves ready to face the day.  There was one in particular that stood out for me.

It read;

Stand tall!

Two simple words, that used to stir up so much emotion for me. As a child growing up I towered over everybody else, including the boys. I really stood out and used to hunch over because I hated the attention. I felt awkward and gangly and was called so many names.

When I read that mantra stand tall, it made me stop and reflect for a moment, and then I felt love. Love for the lessons, love for this person who brought this message to me because she too was tall, and beautiful! So many ifs, and should have’s come to mind.

It took me back the hours leading up to this event.  I was so busy, trying not to get too overwhelmed but starting to freak about what to wear. I’m still in a moon boot and I heard it was a red carpet evening and I was like, what the hell? Maybe I should just go casual? Just be me, because that’s what I’m about.

But, I was contradicting myself beacasue the emphasis of my talk was all about stepping up and being yourself, real.  Not being a slave to the stupid hats or masks you have been collecting throughout your life. Not giving a damn what others think becasue at the end of the day you are giving up ‘living your best life’ by doing that.  I need to remind myself of this often.  It’s not easy being yourself.  Its uncomfortable and it can make others around you feel uncomfrotable too.  Sometimes it feels lonely, it really stretches the comfort zone out even further, its a little unfamiliar.  But god damn when you do it, the feelings that follow are the best high you could ever want. Knowing you are standing in your own light, to be seen by those who need to see you.  You uplevel, evolve and then become unstoppable.  And, the people who really are there for you step forward into your light.

I didn’t realise that, being tall was actually my strength, my super power!

I thought F@#%* this I’m going to throw on a frock, shine bright tonight, ‘stand tall’ moon boot, beach hair and all!

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From one tall mama to another I thank you because this I needed to feel.  A new morning affirmation I made from this lesson is;

“my height helps me shine bright so that my message can be heard by those who need to hear it”

I am owning my super power like a mother!

Come on already and uplevel!

Own your super power like a mother and drop me an email soulwaternz@gmail.com

As always, thank you for sharing in my journey and tuning in, much love

Hiria x

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My letter to you. Take charge of your life like a mother!

For those who are new to my page, here is a little background.

I started it as a way to help me through my depression when I got pregnant with my fourth child.  Soulwater became my strategy to helping myself heal. It was all about connecting to my soul, through the water.

I’ve written ‘that letter’ before.  For those of you who know what i’m talking about, my love to you.  It’s not a nice place to be.

A great deep hole of darkness, void of emotion, just numbness.

Feelings of defeat and failure, guilt and sorrow.

No matter how hard you try to explain the feeling to someone you just can’t.  When you get to that point you are done. All you want is for that pain to go away, so you write the letter.

I used to think that having depression and feeling the way I did mean’t I was broken.  In a sense I was but I felt like it made me less of a person.  How wrong was I!

Even though I felt lower than low and like there was no way out there was this tiny little voice inside me that kept saying , “The only way out is if you help yourself”.

Now what I came to realise is that I needed to work out how I got to this point in the first place.  I have one of those childhood stories that no child should have to experience.  And throughout my adult life I tried to show my worth and value by being the best at everything and going beyond what was needed.

Trying to be the best mama, wife, friend, colleague, employee, teacher, guide, coach, business woman, and so on.

Because of society’s norms I allowed my self to be boxed in under these labels. When I was an employee, thats all I was.  When I taught it was from a pedagogy perspective through the lens of a teacher to a student.  In business I was a business woman who had to commit all my time and effort to making my business work.  And as an athlete, it was training like an athlete 100% commitment. There was no room for anything else, or so I was led to believe.

Throughout my journey with Soulwater I was determined not to box myself in anymore.  It was taking up way too much of my energy trying to be all these different people.  I was done with being unhappy, pretending, and frustrated and left at the end of the day feeling shattered.

Why couldn’t I just be me in all those spaces? What if I woke up one day and just put on one hat?

That would be amazing! I would feel free. Have so much more headspace to be creative again. I would be able to enjoy my kids and my family.

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I knew I wasn’t feeling alone in that because I have always had other mum’s comment on how they don’t know how I do what I do.  It used to make me feel like I was selfish and then guilty. But I have come to realise that actually for me to be able to serve all those spaces I need to make sure I am being looked after.  And yes we all know this but when it comes to the crunch and your day is not going to plan it’s normally your self care that takes the back seat right.

So that’s what my journey with Soulwater has been for me.  Finding myself because somewhere along the line I got lost trying to please others.

As a mama we work damn hard! You would do anything for your family.  So take that work ethic with you daily under one hat.  Look at the world through that lens and you see so much more love, kindness and awesomeness in the world because that what you will project onto others.

I’m all about pushing those boundaries, showing the world that a mama can do anything! I’m passionate about living to our potential and to do that we need to live a balanced healthy lifestyle. I do this by looking after my physical, spiritual, mental, and social (connectedness) wellbeing. If we care for each of these areas equally we are able to  step up into being our authentic self.

I’m on a mission to help other mama’s take charge of their lives like a mother! No regrets.  Because that’s who we are.

So put your self first mama and look after yourself the way you look after your family and the world is your oyster!

Take charge of your life like a mother!

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I am enough, I know enough…

Whoa!It has been a long time since I did a blog.

You see I always told myself I sucked at writing. It’s just not something I was good at.  I’m a physical person, my emotions speak through my actions.

Oh whatever! When I was at school I actually used to be a great writer! I just started to use this as an excuse not to write. Because I was afraid.

Afraid of what people might think.  Afraid of what my friends and family would think. I would start wondering about what they would say. I thought they would  think I’m soft. Or worse still, think I was crazy and then bring my family into it.

I’ve been going through such a huge transformation in my personal journey. For too long I held onto old stories from childhood. Stories that held me back, stopped me from trying. Stories that made me think I wasn’t good enough, or didn’t know enough. Stories where I thought that I deserved what happened to me, it was my fault.

You know when someone says something and you immediately snap back at them, or try to justify your position.  That is ego talking.  Ego loves stories. Stories are what fuels the ego and creates all that crazy negative chatter in your head. The ego is there to protect you, it’s a survival mechanism when in danger.  But it tends to overstep the boundary and when you get into conflict it jumps in. There is no purpose for  your ego when there is no conflict. Which is why you end up with internal conflict.

I had been working on letting those stories go and since then amazing opportunities have been opening up for me and I have my ‘spark’ back again.  It’s been a tough road to take and there have been many moments where I felt, no I wished for the ease of my old life, my lazy life, the hamster wheel of just going through the motions. You know that feeling of, don’t rock the boat and all will be sweet.

Yeah, nah, thats no way to live. I was in denial and I thought I was happy but something deep down still didn’t feel right.  I would work hard across all the different areas of my life trying to find that purpose, and that spark again.

What I have to learned is that change is growth and we must not fear it. It’s a cue from inside that we need to move in another direction or close a door so that new doors can open. When you accept it for that it makes it so much easier.

But, last night while I was journalling I realised I was still holding back.  I had not fully committed to achieving my goals. Of stepping up to just be my authentic self. I was sick of having to be a certain kind of way in my different roles.  That just creates confusion for everyone. What you see is truly what you get now. And I love it!

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Mechanics and Mindset Coach

To make this work I needed to put in some structure and have the discipline to stick to it.  I have this brilliant business coach who has done some pretty amazing things and she has encouraged me to step up.  She armed me with a whole bunch of awesome resources and practice to get back on track.  But I hadn’t yet put the discipline in place to achieve it.

I do this automatically when Im training so you think it would have been simple as for me to do.  I just had not made the connection. I have made huge growth and loads of momentum with my business but there were still some dots I hadn’t connected.

This is my truth right here. I am a mama of four, riding the tides of life. I am on a mission to inspire other beautiful wahine to step up and be all that they can be just as I am. I am enough and I know enough.

I have the qualifications to support my new direction, always have, but now I have the confidence coupled with my experience too and that is my true power!

If you are done sitting on the bank, and ready to jump in with both feet then get in touch.

As always, thanks for tuning in,

 

Hiria x

IMAGINE | BELIEVE | ACHIEVE